What’s with parents posting about their kids’ social lives?

[Anonymous]

Why do parents feel compelled to post on social media about their HS kids “living their best lives” and other similar bullshit and posting a million pictures of their kids’ friend groups? It screams “look how popular my kid is!” So obnoxious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do parents feel compelled to post on social media about their HS kids “living their best lives” and other similar bullshit and posting a million pictures of their kids’ friend groups? It screams “look how popular my kid is!” So obnoxious.

People who do this are either:
-mean popular kids from HS who want the same for their kids; or
-the dorky non-popular ones who want the opposite for their kids.

Whatever.

I just scroll by. It's not that hard.

[Anonymous]

I have a few acquaintances who do this and in their cases, they had either:

A. happy wholesome childhoods and are happy they are creating that for their kids
B. miserable childhoods for various reasons and happy they are breaking cycles and creating more stability, presence, fun wholesome moments for their kids

[Anonymous]

You mean like HoCo and Prom? Otherwise I have not seen this. Ever.

[Anonymous]

I’ve been seeing it a ton from spring break onward. Mom and daughter spring break trips where the whole friend group and their moms wear white dresses for the photo shoot (I’ve seen several of these). Their kids’ group prom pictures. Kids’ athletic teams and waxing poetic about all their friendships.

To be clear, I am all in favor of kids having friends. I just think parents posting about it is weird at best and obnoxious/insensitive at worst.

[Anonymous]

How can you be mad at parents spending time with their kids? Like it or don't and move along. I actually like seeing pics of my friends and their family. I don't understand how you can feel so negatively about it, unless you're suffering from FOMO.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How can you be mad at parents spending time with their kids? Like it or don't and move along. I actually like seeing pics of my friends and their family. I don't understand how you can feel so negatively about it, unless you're suffering from FOMO.

That’s not at all what I’ve described. I’m talking about a whole friend group going in spring break together with their mothers and their mothers posting 20 pictures of it.

[Anonymous]

I've seen it. I also think it's weird. People live vicariously through their kids in all sorts of ways and this is one of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a few acquaintances who do this and in their cases, they had either:

A. happy wholesome childhoods and are happy they are creating that for their kids
B. miserable childhoods for various reasons and happy they are breaking cycles and creating more stability, presence, fun wholesome moments for their kids

This, exactly. I know a “B” SAH parent of teens very well and she is very, very proud of how far she’s come away from her upbringing. She’s still annoying as can be, but the life she’s built is incredibly impressive when compared to how she grew up in a house full of drugs and drinking and general chaos.

[Anonymous]

We don’t post photos of other people’s kids and it bothers me if someone else posts photos of our kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How can you be mad at parents spending time with their kids? Like it or don't and move along. I actually like seeing pics of my friends and their family. I don't understand how you can feel so negatively about it, unless you're suffering from FOMO.

That’s not at all what I’ve described. I’m talking about a whole friend group going in spring break together with their mothers and their mothers posting 20 pictures of it.

They are tribal social status seekers. Did they have matching shirts made for photos too? How cute! You have to assume these types post everything, so if nothing a-ma-zing is posted, it's not amazing right now.

[Anonymous]

I only see people from my boring hometown do this. I figure it's nostalgia-driven for them given that their DCs go to the same school and doing similar things as they did.

[Anonymous]

I see one mom doing this and it’s creepy. She has a ton of pics of her daughter with her boyfriend on a walk, on a school trip, with a friends’ group. Just weekly updates of her daughter and daughter’s boyfriend hugging, kissing on the cheek, holding hands with “so cute” and “how happy”… and “my daughter Larla and her boyfriend Lars had the best time walking in the park today” and attaching 3-4 photos of daughter and bf.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I see one mom doing this and it’s creepy. She has a ton of pics of her daughter with her boyfriend on a walk, on a school trip, with a friends’ group. Just weekly updates of her daughter and daughter’s boyfriend hugging, kissing on the cheek, holding hands with “so cute” and “how happy”… and “my daughter Larla and her boyfriend Lars had the best time walking in the park today” and attaching 3-4 photos of daughter and bf.

OMG, that is so creepy. And it also puts too much pressure on the relationship. Parents really do a job on their kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You mean like HoCo and Prom? Otherwise I have not seen this. Ever.

+1

I rarely see kid-focused posts with teens. Maybe a prom, HoCo, or annual first day of school pic. Occasionally something about a milestone birthday or getting their drivers license. Maybe a sports achievement (Larlo’s basketball team won the conference championship or whatever). Random social events etc? no.