How far would you go if you had a live in nanny steal from you?

[Anonymous]

I had a live in nanny for a year. We caught her stealing jewelry on camera and were informed by a friend that she told another family that we hadn’t paid her in weeks (completely false). She also had a friend over who was definitely intoxicated in our living room and we had to asked her to leave. We found out the friend had recently been arrested for drugs, she claimed she didn’t know but we think she did. She is now trying to get a new nanny job. We haven’t done anything thus far. Should we do anything? File police report? Warn others? Respond to her Nextdoor post asking for jobs that she literally stole from us and spread a rumor? Our concern is she obviously knows where we live and we think she is unstable.

[Anonymous]

Police.

[Anonymous]

This is tough since you are also her landlords. Not sure how you will get her out. She can get arrested but when released she will have to come back to her home which is your home. I wouldn’t want that. Just get rid of her asap and stop having live ins.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is tough since you are also her landlords. Not sure how you will get her out. She can get arrested but when released she will have to come back to her home which is your home. I wouldn’t want that. Just get rid of her asap and stop having live ins.

The police will handle her return.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is tough since you are also her landlords. Not sure how you will get her out. She can get arrested but when released she will have to come back to her home which is your home. I wouldn’t want that. Just get rid of her asap and stop having live ins.

I could be misreading OP's post but it sounds like this is an ex-nanny (i.e. not currently living in OP's house)?

If yes then 100% call the police.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a live in nanny for a year. We caught her stealing jewelry on camera and were informed by a friend that she told another family that we hadn’t paid her in weeks (completely false). She also had a friend over who was definitely intoxicated in our living room and we had to asked her to leave. We found out the friend had recently been arrested for drugs, she claimed she didn’t know but we think she did. She is now trying to get a new nanny job. We haven’t done anything thus far. Should we do anything? File police report? Warn others? Respond to her Nextdoor post asking for jobs that she literally stole from us and spread a rumor? Our concern is she obviously knows where we live and we think she is unstable.

Why haven't you reported the theft to the police if you have proof? Stop protecting thieves.o

When you are asked for a reference simply confirm hourly rate and dates of employment. Change all locks and phone numbers and change number for security.

[Anonymous]

You immediately file a police report for theft.

[Anonymous]

Agree I would have filed the police report and presented the proof. Was the stolen item returned?

There was a similar recent post. Whether to warn others etc. I would.

[Anonymous]

What’s this world coming to when you can’t find honest servants? Why just last week the chap who looks over my polo ponies tried to sell one of my favorite saddles. While I was in it!

[Anonymous]

I would not report her to the police. I give everyone one big mistake.

But I would have made it clear that she would not get a good reference from me. If someone were to call and ask about her, I would tell them I needed to let her go because she stole. Document everything, so if someone does call you and ask about it, you can be honest and don’t have to worry about her suing you for defamation. Do not—for your own good—go reporting this all over Nextdoor or anywhere else for that matter. And do not, ever, discuss anything that you can’t prove, like the friend being intoxicated or having something to do with “drugs.”

Hope she just goes away. I assume she is no longer in your house. If she is, then this is a whole other ball of wax.

[Anonymous]

1000000% the police HOW is this even a question?!

[Anonymous]

How much was the jewelry worth? Unless it was very expensive, I would not involve the police. If she is dumb enough to give someone your number to use as a reference, answer their questions honestly. That’s all I would do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What’s this world coming to when you can’t find honest servants? Why just last week the chap who looks over my polo ponies tried to sell one of my favorite saddles. While I was in it!

At least you were in it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd call ICE.

Report yourself for hiring an illegal?

[Anonymous]

Does she still live in your house?

I would tell her you have to lay her off due to the economy and have her move out.