Too food focused?

[Anonymous]

I had weight issues for the better part of 30 years. Had bypass surgery, saw a dietician and changed my relationship with food - I think. . I get so sad/triggered by people who monitor and discuss their intake. I don't know why. I never talked a lot bout weight/diet when I was bigger, but I cannot figure out why I just turn off of anyone I don't know discussing their diet. I saw a woman that I met before that I heard discuss a 'cheat meal' about 8 times, to several different people. Every mention felt like a little admission or confession that no one requested. I cannot imagine inviting anyone to hear my concerns over my day's consumption and it just gives me the 'icks'. Is this a sign of lack of adjustment or better adjustment? I'm truly wondering.

[Anonymous]

The "icks"? What kind of language is that? I think that's half of your problem, OP.

[Anonymous]

I don't care to hear about what other people do or don't eat. Maybe you turn that off because it's not remotely interesting.

[Anonymous]

I mean the reality is you can't really out exercise excess calories, so if your goal is weightloss, you are going to have to engage with diet information. How you choose to engage with it is whatever you find most effective.

[Anonymous]

I hate it too. They feel guilty and anguished over eating and it's sort of shaming themselves and others who don't do that. I do it too but only internally, I never day it in front of people. It's toxic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had weight issues for the better part of 30 years. Had bypass surgery, saw a dietician and changed my relationship with food - I think. . I get so sad/triggered by people who monitor and discuss their intake. I don't know why. I never talked a lot bout weight/diet when I was bigger, but I cannot figure out why I just turn off of anyone I don't know discussing their diet. I saw a woman that I met before that I heard discuss a 'cheat meal' about 8 times, to several different people. Every mention felt like a little admission or confession that no one requested. I cannot imagine inviting anyone to hear my concerns over my day's consumption and it just gives me the 'icks'. Is this a sign of lack of adjustment or better adjustment? I'm truly wondering.

Maybe because you take it as a personal judgment on your past weight issues ? At least for me, when I feel really uncomfortable/ something gives me the ick, it is because it brings some feeling of shame or guilt that I haven’t dealt with. It touches too close to home somehow.

I find the continuous in person handwringing over calorie consumption exhausting/boring and unhealthy (although I can do it on this anonymous forum I don’t do it IRL). But it doesn’t make me uncomfortable. I feel more compassion than ick because I never had any real issue with food.

But on the other hand I have a weird ick feeling about people who overshare on their vegan diets, and I think that’s because I myself feel guilty about not being vegan.

So, maybe you will find more peace and compassion for it as time goes by?

[Anonymous]

People who talk about their diets too much have always been the most obnoxious. And yes they are usually fat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The "icks"? What kind of language is that? I think that's half of your problem, OP.

This is a popular phrase now. It’s like the drip drip or dribble
dribble kings and a bunch of others .Do you watch you tube or x?

[Anonymous]

I do that sometimes. I’m sorry. I’m obsessed with food. I don’t diet. I can’t, but I need to lose 10 lbs… but I can’t. So that is my struggle. Sorry if you hear me talk about it.