Gift for boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

My daughter’s first serious boyfriend is getting his PhD. They have been dating for a year. I have met him several times (ie, short stays at my house). They ate in their mid 20’s.

Should I get him a present? (I have not in the past , say for his birthday). I have no plans to attend the ceremony. His family (who I have met once) will attend.

Should just ask my daughter what she thinks is appropriate? (Given that I care more, about her feelings, TBH)

[Anonymous]

I think a bottle of champagne and a congrats card would be nice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think a bottle of champagne and a congrats card would be nice.

This. Write on the card "Congrats Son!" and see how he takes it. If he runs off, they weren't serious afterall and you saved her some time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think a bottle of champagne and a congrats card would be nice.

This. Write on the card "Congrats Son!" and see how he takes it. If he runs off, they weren't serious afterall and you saved her some time.

Don’t assume she wants marriage and he doesn’t. That is a very dated and sexist bias.

[Anonymous]

I would absolutely get him a gift and ask her for suggestions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think a bottle of champagne and a congrats card would be nice.

This. Write on the card "Congrats Son!" and see how he takes it. If he runs off, they weren't serious afterall and you saved her some time.

Don’t assume she wants marriage and he doesn’t. That is a very dated and sexist bias.

Humor is lost on you for want of saying something like that, I suppose? Don't be like that, it pushes people away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would absolutely get him a gift and ask her for suggestions.

+1

I would also ask DD about sending a card to the parents. Some might like it, others would feel weird. They are old enough that a year of serious dating could mean moving in together or engagement is on the horizon.

[Anonymous]

I think a small gift would be appropriate.

[Anonymous]

While I think a gift would be great. Ask your daughter first.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think a bottle of champagne and a congrats card would be nice.

This or gift card to nice restaurant for a celebration dinner.

[Anonymous]

Obviously you should check with your DD but I don't see what's wrong with giving a major milestone gift to a person who is a close friend and romantic interest of your child and you've met and hosted him several times.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think a bottle of champagne and a congrats card would be nice.

This or gift card to nice restaurant for a celebration dinner.

Agree that either of these ideas are great. Don’t try to guess at something more personal or expensive.

[Anonymous]

I agree with this.

My (now) MIL sent me flowers when I was promoted at my job - my husband and I had only been dating for about a year, but we were also mid-20s. I was touched. I think the champagne (if he drinks) or dinner suggestion is perfect.