Disclosing pregnancy before start of a new job?

[Anonymous]

I interviewed for a (much wanted) job at 28 weeks pregnant. I'm looking at starting it potentially around 33 weeks. Have not yet disclosed (although now it would be visibly very obvious to anyone). At what point should I disclose? How should I navigate the need for leave? I know many would say I was nuts to even apply, but this was a rare opportunity to go after a job closely aligned with my professional ambitions that I've been working towards for nearly two decades.

[Anonymous]

I don't know and until Trusk changes things they can't fire you but your new coworkers will never trust you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I interviewed for a (much wanted) job at 28 weeks pregnant. I'm looking at starting it potentially around 33 weeks. Have not yet disclosed (although now it would be visibly very obvious to anyone). At what point should I disclose? How should I navigate the need for leave? I know many would say I was nuts to even apply, but this was a rare opportunity to go after a job closely aligned with my professional ambitions that I've been working towards for nearly two decades.

I would have that conversation after the offer before you let your other job know. Because they don't need to give you any maternity leave by law, and if they're going to fire you for not coming to work you probably don't want to take it.

[Anonymous]

Not nuts to apply. I’ve successfully done the same and hired a pregnant woman as well. After you receive the offer, let your new supervisor know you are pregnant and ask to discuss how you would be able to manage some maternity leave. You need to be open to a short leave. I only took 8 weeks. I gave my employee 12. Depending on how long the search takes and when they need someone, they could be willing to wait until after you have the baby for you to start as well. All a discussion for after you have the offer. And don’t listen to the poster who said people won’t trust you. That’s nonsense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not nuts to apply. I’ve successfully done the same and hired a pregnant woman as well. After you receive the offer, let your new supervisor know you are pregnant and ask to discuss how you would be able to manage some maternity leave. You need to be open to a short leave. I only took 8 weeks. I gave my employee 12. Depending on how long the search takes and when they need someone, they could be willing to wait until after you have the baby for you to start as well. All a discussion for after you have the offer. And don’t listen to the poster who said people won’t trust you. That’s nonsense.

All leave was unpaid though. Just to be clear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not nuts to apply. I’ve successfully done the same and hired a pregnant woman as well. After you receive the offer, let your new supervisor know you are pregnant and ask to discuss how you would be able to manage some maternity leave. You need to be open to a short leave. I only took 8 weeks. I gave my employee 12. Depending on how long the search takes and when they need someone, they could be willing to wait until after you have the baby for you to start as well. All a discussion for after you have the offer. And don’t listen to the poster who said people won’t trust you. That’s nonsense.

I would give you one week maternity leave, if that. Above PP is wrong. You are coming to a job for six to eight weeks and then taking maternity leave for whatever you can finagle and other employees will have to do your job and this does not foster warm feelings for you

[Anonymous]

Do NOT disclose. They cannot use it against you, that would be illegal, but no need to borrow trouble. Especially if you’ll already be showing. You don’t need to announce “hey, I’m black, you’re sure you’re cool with hiring me? Even though I’m black?” Why would you do it with pregnancy?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Not nuts to apply. I’ve successfully done the same and hired a pregnant woman as well. After you receive the offer, let your new supervisor know you are pregnant and ask to discuss how you would be able to manage some maternity leave. You need to be open to a short leave. I only took 8 weeks. I gave my employee 12. Depending on how long the search takes and when they need someone, they could be willing to wait until after you have the baby for you to start as well. All a discussion for after you have the offer. And don’t listen to the poster who said people won’t trust you. That’s nonsense.

I would give you one week maternity leave, if that. Above PP is wrong. You are coming to a job for six to eight weeks and then taking maternity leave for whatever you can finagle and other employees will have to do your job and this does not foster warm feelings for you

And this human hiding behind anonymity is why America is going down the drain. Disgusting.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Not nuts to apply. I’ve successfully done the same and hired a pregnant woman as well. After you receive the offer, let your new supervisor know you are pregnant and ask to discuss how you would be able to manage some maternity leave. You need to be open to a short leave. I only took 8 weeks. I gave my employee 12. Depending on how long the search takes and when they need someone, they could be willing to wait until after you have the baby for you to start as well. All a discussion for after you have the offer. And don’t listen to the poster who said people won’t trust you. That’s nonsense.

I would give you one week maternity leave, if that. Above PP is wrong. You are coming to a job for six to eight weeks and then taking maternity leave for whatever you can finagle and other employees will have to do your job and this does not foster warm feelings for you

And this human hiding behind anonymity is why America is going down the drain. Disgusting.

I do not believe in screwing employees or employers and I particularly do not like liars.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Not nuts to apply. I’ve successfully done the same and hired a pregnant woman as well. After you receive the offer, let your new supervisor know you are pregnant and ask to discuss how you would be able to manage some maternity leave. You need to be open to a short leave. I only took 8 weeks. I gave my employee 12. Depending on how long the search takes and when they need someone, they could be willing to wait until after you have the baby for you to start as well. All a discussion for after you have the offer. And don’t listen to the poster who said people won’t trust you. That’s nonsense.

I would give you one week maternity leave, if that. Above PP is wrong. You are coming to a job for six to eight weeks and then taking maternity leave for whatever you can finagle and other employees will have to do your job and this does not foster warm feelings for you

And this human hiding behind anonymity is why America is going down the drain. Disgusting.

I do not believe in screwing employees or employers and I particularly do not like liars.

How is the OP screwing anyone? When I was in my early 30s I used to worry about this as someone just starting their family. I’m in my 50s now and realize it’s a blip in someone’s professional career. I manage a team of employees and maternity/paternity leave is no big deal. It’s life.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Not nuts to apply. I’ve successfully done the same and hired a pregnant woman as well. After you receive the offer, let your new supervisor know you are pregnant and ask to discuss how you would be able to manage some maternity leave. You need to be open to a short leave. I only took 8 weeks. I gave my employee 12. Depending on how long the search takes and when they need someone, they could be willing to wait until after you have the baby for you to start as well. All a discussion for after you have the offer. And don’t listen to the poster who said people won’t trust you. That’s nonsense.

I would give you one week maternity leave, if that. Above PP is wrong. You are coming to a job for six to eight weeks and then taking maternity leave for whatever you can finagle and other employees will have to do your job and this does not foster warm feelings for you

And this human hiding behind anonymity is why America is going down the drain. Disgusting.

I do not believe in screwing employees or employers and I particularly do not like liars.

Just because someone doesn’t want to put themselves at risk for an illegal dismissal does not make them a liar or trying to screw anyone over. Go lick a boot.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Not nuts to apply. I’ve successfully done the same and hired a pregnant woman as well. After you receive the offer, let your new supervisor know you are pregnant and ask to discuss how you would be able to manage some maternity leave. You need to be open to a short leave. I only took 8 weeks. I gave my employee 12. Depending on how long the search takes and when they need someone, they could be willing to wait until after you have the baby for you to start as well. All a discussion for after you have the offer. And don’t listen to the poster who said people won’t trust you. That’s nonsense.

I would give you one week maternity leave, if that. Above PP is wrong. You are coming to a job for six to eight weeks and then taking maternity leave for whatever you can finagle and other employees will have to do your job and this does not foster warm feelings for you

And this human hiding behind anonymity is why America is going down the drain. Disgusting.

I do not believe in screwing employees or employers and I particularly do not like liars.

I don't believe in treating human resource resources like machine resources.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Not nuts to apply. I’ve successfully done the same and hired a pregnant woman as well. After you receive the offer, let your new supervisor know you are pregnant and ask to discuss how you would be able to manage some maternity leave. You need to be open to a short leave. I only took 8 weeks. I gave my employee 12. Depending on how long the search takes and when they need someone, they could be willing to wait until after you have the baby for you to start as well. All a discussion for after you have the offer. And don’t listen to the poster who said people won’t trust you. That’s nonsense.

I would give you one week maternity leave, if that. Above PP is wrong. You are coming to a job for six to eight weeks and then taking maternity leave for whatever you can finagle and other employees will have to do your job and this does not foster warm feelings for you

And this human hiding behind anonymity is why America is going down the drain. Disgusting.

I do not believe in screwing employees or employers and I particularly do not like liars.

Just because someone doesn’t want to put themselves at risk for an illegal dismissal does not make them a liar or trying to screw anyone over. Go lick a boot.

It's a lie of omission. Lie to me once and I don't ever trust you. If OP is the ideal candidate for the job then I would work with her on 8 weeks maternity leave. She is coming in at 33 weeks and would not have worked that long before giving birth. But lie to.me, I don't go to bat for anyone. It is disturbing that so many of you believe it is all right to lie by omission to a perspective employer.

[Anonymous]

I am the they won't trust you PP. I have ben one of those coworkers stuck filling in for an on leave coworker, no extra pay or consideration given. On top of doing that while the position was empty, then having the new hire gone again...not my idea of an ideal coworker. So we won't be having coffee or lunches but I will do my job and yours.

[Anonymous]

I was in this exact situation several years ago and posted in the jobs forum and got almost universal responses that I should be fired if I ask for more than a few days after starting a new job. So those are the kinds of people you’re dealing with in the workforce.

It really sucks and there are no good answers for how to accept a job while pregnant. I ultimately didn’t because I didn’t want to deal with no leave or ultimately being fired anyway for taking extended leave, and I found another job after I’d already had my child.