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[Anonymous]

I just need to vent. I had been perfectly fine with the idea that this cycle wasn't going to be "it" - didn't time intercourse that well, was drinking a lot on vacation during my 2ww, etc. But then I had a massage, and the therapist asked me if I could be pregnant, and when I said it was possible she proceeded to tell me that she sensed that I was and that she was "never wrong" about these things. So now I've let her silly comment give me hope, and even though I know I'm not pregnant I'm totally playing mind games with myself over the possibility while waiting for AF to come. Grrr - why do people have to say these stupid things!

[Anonymous]

Because people just don't think. She probably thought - oh I am bringing this woman happy news. Unfortunately, she didn't take her thought process any further before saying what she said. Maybe if you see her again you could tell her that while you understand she means well, that isn't always the best thing to tell a woman, especially if you don't know the circumstances. We all get our hopes up even if we don't think the chances are high. Totally normal. Just cut yourself some slack, realize your hope is a natural thing and if you're not pregnant then allow yourself to be disappointed. Then pick yourself up and get back on the bandwagon with the rest of us. It's hard. But you're not alone if that is any consolation. Hang in there.

[Anonymous]

I'm sure she meant well - how great would that be if she were right?? Either way, I wouldn't say anything negative to her - I'd just steel myself for any similar comment in the future.

[Anonymous]

I had the massage on vacation, so I won't be seeing her again. I guess I'm just tired of people saying stupid sh*t. Like the yoga teacher who promised that she'd get me pregnant, or the acupuncturist who told me that I'd get pregnant because I'm so healthy. These people really should know better. And no, I don't care whether they "mean well." If you're working with the public or treating people, you just shouldn't make false promises or give false hope.

[Anonymous]

Grrr - sharing your frustration. It's different to say "you're chances are good" vs "you WILL". The first gives hope; the second suggest certainty

[Anonymous]

Thanks, everyone. I feel like the universe is really kicking me around this week. First we heard two birth announcements last week, right before I got the massage. Then after I got my period today I went to the gym, where there was a hugely pregnant naked woman preening before the mirror - she was there when I walked in, when I came back from the shower, and still there when I was walking out. Then one of the gym employees came in to show off her newborn.