Did you talk to ex before introducing bf or gf?
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Anonymous
| What is considerate or normal among your friends? |
Anonymous
| I’m the BF/GF and feel weird SO did not tell the ex spouse who technically is not even an ex. It makes me feel yucky. |
Anonymous
| Do you mean telling your ex that you are dating someone, and that you plan to introduce kids to bf/gf? |
Anonymous
| The second part |
Anonymous
Red flag. |
Anonymous
| Not normal |
Anonymous
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I meant not talking this over with the ex and figuring out whether it's okay to tell the children is not normal. You don't necessarily need to seek permission from the ex depending on the circumstances but you should at least inform so the ex is aware.
This isn't about the ex although it would be decent if the man or woman thought about the ex. It's about the kids and the ex should be aware of the impact this might have on the kids and discuss with ex. |
Anonymous
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Yes do it.
Otherwise your kids will perceive you keeping secrets, and feel caught in the middle. They hate feeling like they have to cover for a sneaky parent. Worse, they start to take on lying characteristics of the sneaky parent. |
Anonymous
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This is in court order. I followed it the one time I needed it. We dated for 10 years.
Ex hasn't dated anyone since our divorce I guess. Yeah, right. He has no idea what's in the court order. |
Anonymous
That’s an affair. If divorced, no need. |