Co worker gave me travel restaurant recs that I’m not following and she seems

[Anonymous]

bent out of shape about it. Sigh.

[Anonymous]

Did you ask her for recommendations? It’s weird either way, but some people are very attached to their recommendations, so they take them personally. It’s worse if you sought her recommendations and then ignored them.

[Anonymous]

She has a controlling personality plus she's insecure. People like this are difficult.

In your situation, I would avoid speaking about the trip with her. If it comes up, change the subject or find somewhere else you need to be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you ask her for recommendations? It’s weird either way, but some people are very attached to their recommendations, so they take them personally. It’s worse if you sought her recommendations and then ignored them.

I mentioned where I was going and she offered.

[Anonymous]

Ignore. Just say it didn’t work out! If you didn’t ask; and she just offered, she’s being weird by following up.

“Your recommendations looked great, but didn’t work with our schedule.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you ask her for recommendations? It’s weird either way, but some people are very attached to their recommendations, so they take them personally. It’s worse if you sought her recommendations and then ignored them.

No, it's not "worse." Sometimes you ask someone for a recommendation and then it's not what you want. Sometimes the recommendations are bad or fail to account for some obvious issues. No one uses you to follow your recommendations.

[Anonymous]

People are weird, don't worry about it.

[Anonymous]

How would she know where you ended up going?

[Anonymous]

Seems like a HER problem. Ignore.

[Anonymous]

To be fair, you weren’t interested in recommendations you should have politely declined. It does take time to do something like that. She spent time and you are clearly unappreciative.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To be fair, you weren’t interested in recommendations you should have politely declined. It does take time to do something like that. She spent time and you are clearly unappreciative.

What? No that is dumb. People just suggest places they have been - this takes next to no time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To be fair, you weren’t interested in recommendations you should have politely declined. It does take time to do something like that. She spent time and you are clearly unappreciative.

Exactly. It's annoying when someone asks you for advice, you take the time to respond, and then they ignore all of it.

[Anonymous]

OP, did you ask this person for dining recommendations? I am always baffled by the dining requests on this board. For example, “ We are touring UVA, where should we have lunch?” Come on, it’s a sandwich. Just pick a place and eat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, did you ask this person for dining recommendations? I am always baffled by the dining requests on this board. For example, “ We are touring UVA, where should we have lunch?” Come on, it’s a sandwich. Just pick a place and eat.

There is Subway and then there is that amazing place that students can walk to which often has a line out the door.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How would she know where you ended up going?

This. Stop posting your meals on social media.