Cancelling my milestone birthday trip

[Anonymous]

I will preface this by saying that l know this is shallow given that many people are worried about losing their jobs etc.

I grew up in another country and was planning to celebrate my upcoming milestone birthday with just my sister, my only child and her only child, in a location that is a direct flight for both of us. For an easy and fun long weekend. I usually pay for the lodging when we meet up like this because l make more than her, and we split everything else. She invited my elderly parents without asking me. My mom has low mobility and my dad is a grumpy old man. I was already planning to visit them a couple of months after my birthday, which my sister knows.

I’m so pissed she did this. I want to cancel my birthday trip.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I will preface this by saying that l know this is shallow given that many people are worried about losing their jobs etc.

I grew up in another country and was planning to celebrate my upcoming milestone birthday with just my sister, my only child and her only child, in a location that is a direct flight for both of us. For an easy and fun long weekend. I usually pay for the lodging when we meet up like this because l make more than her, and we split everything else. She invited my elderly parents without asking me. My mom has low mobility and my dad is a grumpy old man. I was already planning to visit them a couple of months after my birthday, which my sister knows.

I’m so pissed she did this. I want to cancel my birthday trip.

Can’t you just talk to her about it and let her know you’re upset, and that she needs to rescind the invitation? She can just tell mom & dad that the accommodations aren’t suitable for their mobility needs.

[Anonymous]

I’d tell parents not to come and make sure they know you are coming soon after. They likely just want to see you.

[Anonymous]

If they’re as old and immobile as you say they will probably stay in the room most of the time so what difference does it make?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If they’re as old and immobile as you say they will probably stay in the room most of the time so what difference does it make?

Having them there would make a huge difference.

OP, tell your sister that she needs to take it back or you aren’t going.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If they’re as old and immobile as you say they will probably stay in the room most of the time so what difference does it make?

Ir means l have to find a hotel that is suitable for them, and they are also very frugal. They will insist on paying so we’ll end up staying somewhere like a holiday inn surrounded by parking lots. For my birthday l wanted a fun walkable location and boutique hotel. It’s just completely changed the nature of the trip. It’s not for me any more, it’s for them. I spend 99% of my efforts for my family and at work, l just wanted a fun birthday.

[Anonymous]

Cancel. Your sister overstepped big time, and you need to set boundaries. I’d book a trip just for me and my DC.

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry your sister did that can you talk to your parents and say you want it to be the way you originally planned it and that you can’t wait to see them the following month?