How bad is it to sleep with your ex boyfriend's
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Anonymous
| brother? I dated the guy years and years ago and always thought his brother was cute. Now the opportunity has arisen to hang with the brother. |
Anonymous
| Creepy. |
Anonymous
| If it was long ago, I don't see why not. Although I would probably keep it pretty discrete unless you guys get serious. |
Anonymous
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Definitely creepy. And potentially devastating to brother #1. I had a friend who did this to two brothers. She thought she could do it in secret, but it all came out in the open and really destroyed the relationship between the two brothers and created a lot of tension in the whole family.
She was my best friend, but I really lost a lot of respect for her after that. Because, after all, there are a ton of men out there to sleep with. She didn't have to do something she knew would end up with people getting hurt. |
Anonymous
| I had an ex whose brother shagged his ex and later moved in with her. Whenever my ex got drunk he would bring it up in the same wounded tone of amazement. He had let the girl go as he did all the women he dated because he had commitment issues so he really could not blame anyone else. The brother loved this girl so much he went to the best wine shop in town and bought a bottle of wine for her for 300 euros and enjoyed it with her without ever telling her the price. After I broke up with this ex I used to wish the brother, who I never met, would fall for me! |
Anonymous
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"Although I would probably keep it pretty discrete"
Keeping something discrete is a sign that you probably shouldn't be doing it in the first place. |
Anonymous
Wow, 300 euros for a woman he just started dating? Creepy. |
Anonymous
| I think its fine. Its been years since you were with Brother #1. Not like you dumped him for Brother #2 or anything. Just act like a grownup. |
Anonymous
| It partially depends on how things ended with the ex. But really, he just needs to deal. You've been apart for years. |
Anonymous
| OP here. I'll add one more fact. Brother #1 and I never slept together. We did fool around a bit, but were not completely physically intimate. There was more emotional involvement. |
Anonymous
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You are a grown up correct? You are past all the other stuff from years ago correct.
Then have fun and just make sure that you use a condom. 
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Anonymous
| You will potentially hurt the other brother and might come between them. Besides the brother might not even want to sleep with you. Why not just find another cute guy unless you are desparate or think that another won't want you... |
Anonymous
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Okay seriously, if there is a mutual attraction between you and one said brother of an ex, there is NO REASON for the two of you to not be together.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with it. |
Anonymous
No, he did this after they had been together for more than a year and were living together. If I were OP I would have to be sure that Ex's Brother really wanted me for me and not to get back at his brother. I would not make any moves and Ex's Brother would have to pitch me hard. I would also wait longer than I would in a normal relationship to sleep with him. I mean personally, I would not want to f- up a family dynamic like this unless it were truly serious. |
Anonymous
| I find it terribly strange that PP equated the extent of someone's love to the fact that he bought a 300 euro bottle of wine "without ever telling her the price." Seems like a f-d up gold-diggy attitude to me. |