Teen in fender bender. Driver threatened teens life.
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Anonymous
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DS17 was in a fender bender after school. I’m not sure exactly what happened but he said the vehicle pulled in front of him at 4 way stop and he ran into them.
The driver was a young mom who got out of the car screaming she’d kill my son. Cops were called but they did exchange information so she has his name. He said she kept threatening to “end him” and that if her baby was hurt she’d hunt him down. I showed up after they had left to get baby checked out. But judging by the damage (next to none) on either car (son has pictures) I’m betting all is fine. Police seemed super dismissive and talked him through filing with insurance but didn’t seem concerned about the woman’s behavior. Should we be worried? |
Anonymous
| Sounds like it was his fault? |
Anonymous
You're dumb. NP |
Anonymous
A fender bender is a justifiable reason to tell a kid you want to kill them? |
Anonymous
| It sounds like she was very scared. People say all sorts of things they don't mean when they are scared. Tell your son to hang up and block her if she tries to call, but I wouldn't be afraid for his safety. |
Anonymous
| Obviously her reaction wasn’t appropriate but she could be suffering PPD or is a new sleep deprived mom who was terrified her baby might’ve been hurt bc of an irresponsible teen. |
Anonymous
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I work in property management and since the pandemic there are so many unstable people. They have zero resilience for stressful situations, kinda like ptsd
No she’s not actually going to kill him. I understand your concern but I wouldn’t worry. |
Anonymous
She also could be at fault and pulled in front of the OP’s son without looking. Yelling at a 17 year old kid is a loser move. |
Anonymous
| I wouldn't be concerned about an actual threat to his safety from an in the moment reaction like that. If it continues he could probably get a restraining order. |
Anonymous
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I wouldn't be worried. She reacted wrong, obviously. But she was scared and shaken and was overreacting at the time. The baby will get the all clear and she'll calm down. Anything further should be dealt with through insurance. IF she tries to contact him at all, then get involved. Tell her once that any communication needs to go through insurance and not to contact them again. If she does again, then try to make a case for harassment since it sounds like the police did make note of her threats.
I'm not excusing her behavior at all. I just think she was shaken and scared and completely flew off the handle but didn't actually mean anything by it. |
Anonymous
| People are crazy! I’m sorry. |
Anonymous
Agree with this. I bet she refers to herself as a mama bear. |
Anonymous
You would never excuse a man under significant work stress the same way. There is no excuse here. |
Anonymous
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I'm sorry this happened to your son, OP. That woman was way out of line. I would never have reacted that way had I had an infant in a car seat at the back. I myself was in several vehicle accidents, as passenger and pedestrian. I sustained a severe concussion as 10 year old when a car ran into me while I was crossing the road with my classmates and teacher.
My son had a similar experience, where he lightly bumped the car in front of him which had come to an abrupt stop. There was no damage on either car according to my husband, who was with him. The grandfather driving with his grandchildren in the car was upset as well, but did not threaten my son. It just goes to show that some people can't control their emotions when they're scared. All you can do is teach your son how to defuse a tense situation so that it doesn't escalate into violence. And don't worry. She's not coming after your kid. |
Anonymous
That’s correct, I wouldn’t, b/c PPD is a medical condition and something very different than work stress. I’m also not excusing anything, I was offering up a possible explanation for her reaction. |