Is it wrong to want to look my best self?

[Anonymous]

I am a chubby woman. In my 20s and early 30s I looked objectively very pretty, and was thin. I have gained more and more weight since turning 40 and I tried semaglutide, then regained when I stopped. If you were me, would you consider going on it permanently? I am not a bad eater, I don't drink, I am active. I try dieting and lose 5, gain 2, lose 7, gain 5...and so on. It's like I cannot maintain a calorie deficit for the long run without semaglutide. I don't think I'd care if I were one of these women who can look gorgeous heavier, but my features get lost when I am heavy.

[Anonymous]

no it isnt

[Anonymous]

Of course not. Talk to your doctor -- no one else's opinion on this matters. But of course there is nothing wrong with wanting to look good and feel good about how you look.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Of course not. Talk to your doctor -- no one else's opinion on this matters. But of course there is nothing wrong with wanting to look good and feel good about how you look.

+1.

[Anonymous]

You are who you are inside. I believe you are who you really are when you look most like who you truly are. I believe you can be on it long term and I think that's what they want you to do.

I am a petite person and look horrendous when I'm chubby. It just overwhelms me and mostly goes to my face. Being pregnant was the worst.

How are you able to get it??

[Anonymous]

Of course there’s nothing wrong with wanting to look your best. I’ve had a tummy tuck and breast lift after having kids, and I got a lower blepharoplasty done last year. If all I needed was a semaglutide I wouldn’t hesitate a second.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are who you are inside. I believe you are who you really are when you look most like who you truly are. I believe you can be on it long term and I think that's what they want you to do.

I am a petite person and look horrendous when I'm chubby. It just overwhelms me and mostly goes to my face. Being pregnant was the worst.

How are you able to get it??

I am very short as well (barely 5'2) I looked like a blob pregnant. I did an online prescription last time. I would not qualify through insurance/ a doctor as I am "only" 153 lbs.

[Anonymous]

I've inexorably gained weight with age, like most people. But I would not consider going on semaglutide for myself, because of the potentially serious side effects, and the hassle, just like I would not consider cosmetic surgery, because of the risks of anesthesia and potential undesirable consequences of botched surgery.

While I still eat some junk food, I actually enjoy eating healthy, I love grain bowls and foods full of fiber... I do not love exercising, it's my area of weakness! But I try to exercise in a low-key way every day, and maintain my weight reasonably well.


I love clothes and picking out cute outfits every day, I make my own jewelry, and pay attention to grooming.

Do what you want, OP!

[Anonymous]

I don't struggle with my weight, so I haven't had to make this decision directly.

But I have multiple family members and friends who have. I don't get involved in their decisions - I just support them. But the logic that goes through my mind on their behalf is:

Worst case, you think about your inability to lose weight as a moral failing, and that weight loss drugs are cheating. Not saying I agree, but that seems to be why people are uncomfortable taking the drugs.

So here are your choice:

Have a moral failing for not being able to lose the weight naturally, and take the drugs and be thin.

Or have a moral failing for not being able to lose the weight naturally, and be fat.

If you're going to feel bad either way, but as well choose the path that makes you feel better about how you look and comes with ancillary health benefits.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't struggle with my weight, so I haven't had to make this decision directly.

But I have multiple family members and friends who have. I don't get involved in their decisions - I just support them. But the logic that goes through my mind on their behalf is:

Worst case, you think about your inability to lose weight as a moral failing, and that weight loss drugs are cheating. Not saying I agree, but that seems to be why people are uncomfortable taking the drugs.

So here are your choice:

Have a moral failing for not being able to lose the weight naturally, and take the drugs and be thin.

Or have a moral failing for not being able to lose the weight naturally, and be fat.

If you're going to feel bad either way, but as well choose the path that makes you feel better about how you look and comes with ancillary health benefits.

PP from this post and just wanted to add: I don't think weight loss drugs, or inability to lose weight is a moral failing. I'm just saying that that's the logic that seems to go through people's minds when making this decision.

[Anonymous]

OP - I don't think we know your reasons for hesitating to use the meds. We can't really answer - or even respond - without that.

[Anonymous]

It's a little alarming that all these responses are agreeing she should go on these drugs for life when she hasn't even defined "chubby." Is it 10 or 15 pounds overweight? 20? 50?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's a little alarming that all these responses are agreeing she should go on these drugs for life when she hasn't even defined "chubby." Is it 10 or 15 pounds overweight? 20? 50?

5'2 and 153lbs. I could stand to lose a good 25 or more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't struggle with my weight, so I haven't had to make this decision directly.

But I have multiple family members and friends who have. I don't get involved in their decisions - I just support them. But the logic that goes through my mind on their behalf is:

Worst case, you think about your inability to lose weight as a moral failing, and that weight loss drugs are cheating. Not saying I agree, but that seems to be why people are uncomfortable taking the drugs.

So here are your choice:

Have a moral failing for not being able to lose the weight naturally, and take the drugs and be thin.

Or have a moral failing for not being able to lose the weight naturally, and be fat.

If you're going to feel bad either way, but as well choose the path that makes you feel better about how you look and comes with ancillary health benefits.

This is bizarre. Being overweight or losing weight using a drug are moral failings? I am so glad I don't know you.

OP, I don't know what the side effects are, but if you can live with potential of those, and you can afford to pay for it, go for it. Feeling good about yourself makes a huge difference in life.

If you go for it, I would make sure you add exercise and healthy eating. Good luck

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't struggle with my weight, so I haven't had to make this decision directly.

But I have multiple family members and friends who have. I don't get involved in their decisions - I just support them. But the logic that goes through my mind on their behalf is:

Worst case, you think about your inability to lose weight as a moral failing, and that weight loss drugs are cheating. Not saying I agree, but that seems to be why people are uncomfortable taking the drugs.

So here are your choice:

Have a moral failing for not being able to lose the weight naturally, and take the drugs and be thin.

Or have a moral failing for not being able to lose the weight naturally, and be fat.

If you're going to feel bad either way, but as well choose the path that makes you feel better about how you look and comes with ancillary health benefits.

PP from this post and just wanted to add: I don't think weight loss drugs, or inability to lose weight is a moral failing. I'm just saying that that's the logic that seems to go through people's minds when making this decision.

Only judgmental people think this way. The only people I have seen who judge people for taking drugs for weight loss has to do with people who are clearly on the drugs and refuse to admit what they are doing. "I started exercising! An amazing diet!" Those people are judged for being liars not for losing weight.