How often do you see friends who live nearby?

[Anonymous]

I’m curious what is normal to expect. Maybe there is a range an no “normal”?

I have some friends who I see regularly. We are sometimes planning the next excursion while on the current excursion. Meanwhile, other friends can go weeks without contact.

Everyone I’m referring to is an empty nester, yet some have time-consuming jobs or are introverts.

[Anonymous]

How nearby? I see neighborhood friends 2-3 times a month.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How nearby? I see neighborhood friends 2-3 times a month.

Within 2-6 miles.

[Anonymous]

My 6 best friends (separately, we aren't a group of friends) all live within 30 mins of me and I try to see 1 friend per week so works out to about once every 6 weeks for each friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 6 best friends (separately, we aren't a group of friends) all live within 30 mins of me and I try to see 1 friend per week so works out to about once every 6 weeks for each friend.

They don't sound like friends.

[Anonymous]

Small group of close friends around 30 miles away meet up around once per month. We text more frequently in group chat. Texting maybe every other day about something. Everybody is working and have kids.

[Anonymous]

That’s wonderful. I really withdrew from friends due to illness, family, etc and never quite got the relationships reestablished.

[Anonymous]

I saw friends last Friday night, Saturday morning, then will see friends Wednesday night, and Thursday for lunch. Then not again until Saturday.

[Anonymous]

That all sounds normal to me. I think as long as the contact continues, even if the intervals are longer, it's fine.

I don't really think there's a wrong answer here. I have some friends I only see a few times a year but I still really love them and we've been friends for decades. We always pick right back up where we left off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m curious what is normal to expect. Maybe there is a range an no “normal”?

I have some friends who I see regularly. We are sometimes planning the next excursion while on the current excursion. Meanwhile, other friends can go weeks without contact.

Everyone I’m referring to is an empty nester, yet some have time-consuming jobs or are introverts.

I think each relationship is different. What kind of relationships are you looking for?? How much do you WANT to see these people?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My 6 best friends (separately, we aren't a group of friends) all live within 30 mins of me and I try to see 1 friend per week so works out to about once every 6 weeks for each friend.

They don't sound like friends.

No, it doesn't sound like YOUR friends. Other people have other needs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How nearby? I see neighborhood friends 2-3 times a month.

Within 2-6 miles.

Depending on where you live, that could be 30-40 minutes in a car.
I have a friend a 20 minute walk from me and we see each other every 2 months or so. All my other friends live much farther away so 1-2x/year or less.

[Anonymous]

Too many friends expect me to do all the work of maintaining the friendship. Tiresome.

[Anonymous]

Once a week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That’s wonderful. I really withdrew from friends due to illness, family, etc and never quite got the relationships reestablished.

I’m sorry. That sounds really hard.

OP