State schools where it doesn’t suck to be OOS

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Anonymous wrote:My DD initially was focused on going to an OOS state school. In the end she was really worried that the place she liked the most would be a back up for the in-state students (who are 80%) were compelled to attend bc of cost. I think this was in part bc she was offered honors/merit at our in state school and felt this way herself but really wanted to go away. She wound up at a private school which wasn’t what she had originally planned.

what an incredibly snobby and entitled child you raised

Np. I kind of get it because my daughter was so happy to go to her first choice but was kind of bummed that all of her friends had been rejected by their top ivy/elite choice so they always had a chip on their shoulders about never being totally happy with their school.

Not a big deal, of course, but real.

It’s delusional to believe that the in-state kids at the state flagship have a chip on their shoulders! You people REALLY need to get out of your bubbles.

It's actually.. not that crazy of a thought. You don't think there are in-state kids at somewhere like Michigan that got into private schools and didn't attend due to cost that are peeved about it?

Peeved? A bit dramatic don’t you think? Using Michigan as an example is pretty silly as well. If you stated an average public state flagship I would somewhat understand your comment. It’s still a ridiculous statement.

You're the one being dramatic and speaking in absolutes. Peeved is probably the mildest word I could've used. And you're changing the goalposts now, you didn't state "average public state flagship".

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Anonymous wrote:My DD initially was focused on going to an OOS state school. In the end she was really worried that the place she liked the most would be a back up for the in-state students (who are 80%) were compelled to attend bc of cost. I think this was in part bc she was offered honors/merit at our in state school and felt this way herself but really wanted to go away. She wound up at a private school which wasn’t what she had originally planned.

what an incredibly snobby and entitled child you raised

Np. I kind of get it because my daughter was so happy to go to her first choice but was kind of bummed that all of her friends had been rejected by their top ivy/elite choice so they always had a chip on their shoulders about never being totally happy with their school.

Not a big deal, of course, but real.

It’s delusional to believe that the in-state kids at the state flagship have a chip on their shoulders! You people REALLY need to get out of your bubbles.

It's actually.. not that crazy of a thought. You don't think there are in-state kids at somewhere like Michigan that got into private schools and didn't attend due to cost that are peeved about it?

Maybe a few of course. But this originally came up as someone claiming that it was somehow pervasive that kids at a state flagship all go around moping because they are not at Yale. Absurd.

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Anonymous wrote:My DD initially was focused on going to an OOS state school. In the end she was really worried that the place she liked the most would be a back up for the in-state students (who are 80%) were compelled to attend bc of cost. I think this was in part bc she was offered honors/merit at our in state school and felt this way herself but really wanted to go away. She wound up at a private school which wasn’t what she had originally planned.

what an incredibly snobby and entitled child you raised

Np. I kind of get it because my daughter was so happy to go to her first choice but was kind of bummed that all of her friends had been rejected by their top ivy/elite choice so they always had a chip on their shoulders about never being totally happy with their school.

Not a big deal, of course, but real.

It’s delusional to believe that the in-state kids at the state flagship have a chip on their shoulders! You people REALLY need to get out of your bubbles.

It's actually.. not that crazy of a thought. You don't think there are in-state kids at somewhere like Michigan that got into private schools and didn't attend due to cost that are peeved about it?

I agree with this. We know plenty of kids who don't view their fantastic in state options like UF, UNC, UVA the way out of state students do. They have a tough time getting excited about these schools because they see them as an extension of their high school experience. Of course they are great schools and make 100% financial sense, but to an 18 year old, they don't have the same draw as a unique far away experience.

You know snobby, entitled kids. The vast majority of kids going in state to their state flagship are not moaning about not being at Brown. Money alone …

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Anonymous wrote:Wisco is here to stay, y’all! My kid didn’t even apply to Wisco last fall, but I’m thinking of ordering a Wisco hoody tonight just so I can say “where’s my Wisco hoody?!” around the house every few days.

‘sconsin never had a chance.

Like nails on a chalkboard — please make it stop!

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Some frats and sororities from some of these big state schools, particularly in the south, do prefer in state. But only some. Many others have lots of OOS students and even some where it is the majority.

So the example above is not the norm.

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Anonymous wrote:Delaware! The majority of kids are out of state.

But aren’t they all from Jersey and PA?

NP. Many but also many from NY and NYC. Also MD and VA.

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I find this thread so odd just thinking of my experience at Indiana in the 1980s.

My best friends were from Ohio, Missouri, Illinois, New York, New York and Massachusetts. And I was a state resident of Indiana I loved meeting all of them and I loved that there were NOT from Indiana and had grown up, in some cases, in such different environments.

Being with a bunch of Hoosiers at a state school made no difference to any of them. They loved it there. Good memories. Good friends.

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve heard some state schools are easier on out of state students than others. My DC doesn’t want to feel like tons of people go home on the weekends or like most freshmen just hang out with kids from their high school.

Have you had experience with this — good or bad? We’ve visited several big, popular places and a few don’t even seem to have freshman orientation, which might help with meeting people. (So different from LACS.)

Back in the olden days (early 90s) when JMU had an undergraduate enrollment of 12k, my dorm floor consisted of kids from NOVA, Tidewater, Southside, MD, CT, NY and NJ. If this is the experience of a regional school pre-internet and common app, it's probably more difficult to find a school that is tough for OOS.

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Anonymous wrote:My DD initially was focused on going to an OOS state school. In the end she was really worried that the place she liked the most would be a back up for the in-state students (who are 80%) were compelled to attend bc of cost. I think this was in part bc she was offered honors/merit at our in state school and felt this way herself but really wanted to go away. She wound up at a private school which wasn’t what she had originally planned.

what an incredibly snobby and entitled child you raised

Np. I kind of get it because my daughter was so happy to go to her first choice but was kind of bummed that all of her friends had been rejected by their top ivy/elite choice so they always had a chip on their shoulders about never being totally happy with their school.

Not a big deal, of course, but real.

It’s delusional to believe that the in-state kids at the state flagship have a chip on their shoulders! You people REALLY need to get out of your bubbles.

It's actually.. not that crazy of a thought. You don't think there are in-state kids at somewhere like Michigan that got into private schools and didn't attend due to cost that are peeved about it?

I agree with this. We know plenty of kids who don't view their fantastic in state options like UF, UNC, UVA the way out of state students do. They have a tough time getting excited about these schools because they see them as an extension of their high school experience. Of course they are great schools and make 100% financial sense, but to an 18 year old, they don't have the same draw as a unique far away experience.

I know people who bribed their kids to go to UMD in state. I know adults who went to in state great schools who wish they’d gone away. This is common.
The person calling these kids names is so sanctimonious and out of touch.

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Anonymous wrote:My DD initially was focused on going to an OOS state school. In the end she was really worried that the place she liked the most would be a back up for the in-state students (who are 80%) were compelled to attend bc of cost. I think this was in part bc she was offered honors/merit at our in state school and felt this way herself but really wanted to go away. She wound up at a private school which wasn’t what she had originally planned.

what an incredibly snobby and entitled child you raised

Np. I kind of get it because my daughter was so happy to go to her first choice but was kind of bummed that all of her friends had been rejected by their top ivy/elite choice so they always had a chip on their shoulders about never being totally happy with their school.

Not a big deal, of course, but real.

It’s delusional to believe that the in-state kids at the state flagship have a chip on their shoulders! You people REALLY need to get out of your bubbles.

It's actually.. not that crazy of a thought. You don't think there are in-state kids at somewhere like Michigan that got into private schools and didn't attend due to cost that are peeved about it?

Maybe a few of course. But this originally came up as someone claiming that it was somehow pervasive that kids at a state flagship all go around moping because they are not at Yale. Absurd.

That’s how I read it as well. The overwhelmingly majority of instate Michigan kids who attend Michigan aren’t peeved in the slightest thst they didn’t get into a private school. There are very, very few private colleges that are Michigan’s level. Now if you mentioned OOS students, that would be more believable.

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Anonymous wrote:Delaware! The majority of kids are out of state.

But aren’t they all from Jersey and PA?

Long Island and Maryland too!!

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Anonymous wrote:My DD initially was focused on going to an OOS state school. In the end she was really worried that the place she liked the most would be a back up for the in-state students (who are 80%) were compelled to attend bc of cost. I think this was in part bc she was offered honors/merit at our in state school and felt this way herself but really wanted to go away. She wound up at a private school which wasn’t what she had originally planned.

what an incredibly snobby and entitled child you raised

Np. I kind of get it because my daughter was so happy to go to her first choice but was kind of bummed that all of her friends had been rejected by their top ivy/elite choice so they always had a chip on their shoulders about never being totally happy with their school.

Not a big deal, of course, but real.

It’s delusional to believe that the in-state kids at the state flagship have a chip on their shoulders! You people REALLY need to get out of your bubbles.

It's actually.. not that crazy of a thought. You don't think there are in-state kids at somewhere like Michigan that got into private schools and didn't attend due to cost that are peeved about it?

Maybe a few of course. But this originally came up as someone claiming that it was somehow pervasive that kids at a state flagship all go around moping because they are not at Yale. Absurd.

That’s how I read it as well. The overwhelmingly majority of instate Michigan kids who attend Michigan aren’t peeved in the slightest thst they didn’t get into a private school. There are very, very few private colleges that are Michigan’s level. Now if you mentioned OOS students, that would be more believable.

It’s more at UGA and UF where tuition is paid by the state and students can’t turn that down. Also they have 80-90% in state.