Parents with teen kids: Where/ when do you …

[Anonymous]

Have sex?

Seriously… if you have teen kids at home - and your home isn’t huge, and like most teens, your kids aren’t in bed before 11 pm.

It was a lot easier for us when our kids were young and in bed by 9 pm. Now that we have a 14 and a 16 year old night owls , it’s almost impossible. We find ourselves sneaking into the tiny basement guest bedroom but that’s not super practical.

We can’t possibly be the only ones going through this.

Thoughts?

[Anonymous]

Mornings or middle of the night

[Anonymous]

Weekend mornings.

Our teens don't go to bed before 11pm, but they also don't wake up before 10am.

[Anonymous]

Also have 14 and 16 year olds. Weeknight bedtime for them is 10pm (the younger one almost always passes out immediately but the 16 year old is awake for a while after). Both kids use white noise machines and the one closest to our room keeps her door completely closed.

Weekends when they're up later- we just stay up even later than them. I'm tired though.

[Anonymous]

WFH days when kids are in school. Plus it’s the rare occasions when DW reluctantly consents.

[Anonymous]

Mornings most often. But DH and I will say goodnight to our teens, and go to our bedroom In the evening, lock our door and have sex. We aren’t super loud and the kids are watching tv or video games or whatever and can’t hear us.

[Anonymous]

We have some type of intimacy almost every morning. DS gets up at 545, we generally wake up around 430.
Also working from home. We wil meet up at a hotel for a “business lunch”.
DH does a lot of same day work trips and I will offer to drop him off and airport and pick him up. I will tell DS that he had to take a later flight that lands at 10 pm when he is actually landing at 5 and I have already checked in a prepped a room near DCA.
Also when DS has practice, is a meeting with friends or gaming. online. We don’t hide the fact that we are sexually active either. We consider sex an important part of our relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have some type of intimacy almost every morning. DS gets up at 545, we generally wake up around 430.
Also working from home. We wil meet up at a hotel for a “business lunch”.
DH does a lot of same day work trips and I will offer to drop him off and airport and pick him up. I will tell DS that he had to take a later flight that lands at 10 pm when he is actually landing at 5 and I have already checked in a prepped a room near DCA.
Also when DS has practice, is a meeting with friends or gaming. online. We don’t hide the fact that we are sexually active either. We consider sex an important part of our relationship.

You get a hotel room every time you go want to have sex? That isn’t practical.

[Anonymous]

Weekend mornings are best. Occasional weekday mornings after kids have left for school (needs some pre-planning.) Evenings when both kids are out of the house. Around 11 when everyone is in bed (but usually I’m too tired then.)

[Anonymous]

DH works from home and I work night shift 3 nights a week so we've got plenty of time during the day.
When he's at a friend's house or an activity

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have some type of intimacy almost every morning. DS gets up at 545, we generally wake up around 430.
Also working from home. We wil meet up at a hotel for a “business lunch”.
DH does a lot of same day work trips and I will offer to drop him off and airport and pick him up. I will tell DS that he had to take a later flight that lands at 10 pm when he is actually landing at 5 and I have already checked in a prepped a room near DCA.
Also when DS has practice, is a meeting with friends or gaming. online. We don’t hide the fact that we are sexually active either. We consider sex an important part of our relationship.

You get a hotel room every time you go want to have sex? That isn’t practical.

This is strange to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have some type of intimacy almost every morning. DS gets up at 545, we generally wake up around 430.
Also working from home. We wil meet up at a hotel for a “business lunch”.
DH does a lot of same day work trips and I will offer to drop him off and airport and pick him up. I will tell DS that he had to take a later flight that lands at 10 pm when he is actually landing at 5 and I have already checked in a prepped a room near DCA.
Also when DS has practice, is a meeting with friends or gaming. online. We don’t hide the fact that we are sexually active either. We consider sex an important part of our relationship.

You get a hotel room every time you go want to have sex? That isn’t practical.

This is strange to me.

Why strange? Have you never had hotel sex? Google it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have some type of intimacy almost every morning. DS gets up at 545, we generally wake up around 430.
Also working from home. We wil meet up at a hotel for a “business lunch”.
DH does a lot of same day work trips and I will offer to drop him off and airport and pick him up. I will tell DS that he had to take a later flight that lands at 10 pm when he is actually landing at 5 and I have already checked in a prepped a room near DCA.
Also when DS has practice, is a meeting with friends or gaming. online. We don’t hide the fact that we are sexually active either. We consider sex an important part of our relationship.

You get a hotel room every time you go want to have sex? That isn’t practical.

I never said every time. I was giving examples of how we intentionally carve out time to make it work.

I said we have some form of intimacy every morning before DS gets up, and time carved out Sunday evening. The hotel stuff is in addition too.

[Anonymous]

We're very quiet.

[Anonymous]

We have an 18 year old and her bedroom is right next to ours. We have sex anytime we want to which is usually at night. We're not loud and boisterous but If the bed creaks oh well. Sex is a natural thing and as long as I'm not loudly moaning or making it obvious it's fine.