How do you and your SO keep the romance a live?

[Anonymous]

I don't mean just sex.
I feel like with , work, aging parents and other responsibilities we e gotten into a rut and are starting to become more like roommates.

[Anonymous]

Date nights
Set aside one on one time whenever you can
Lots of sex
Do something special for each other: DH makes me coffee every AM
Overlook petty annoyances
Compliment each other
Lots of hugs

We’ve been together for 28 years so we reminisce a lot, remind each other of funny stories, look at old pictures together, etc.

It’s all an effort but worth it!

[Anonymous]

We are empty nesters with very different interests but we do find things to do together. I took up golf ten years ago and we play once a week depending on the weather. We will take weekend trips plus international travel which we both love. We are both pretty independent and we don't feel the need to be connected 24/7. We have a lot of friends who we often connect with socially. I don't think we've ever had a fight and we are both pretty chill people so we don't annoy each other. And yes, sex is a big part of the romance! We both just got over the two week post Christmas miserable colds and two nights ago we celebrated!

[Anonymous]

Sex is a big one
We go out every other week for a weekday dinner
We do weekly "date nights" at home where we put away electronics and do a puzzle and talk or just cuddle on the couch and talk
We go away for a night or weekend every other month

I think the biggest thing though is just the little things that we do every day that show how much we appreciate and love each other. It's easy to keep the romance alive when you feel the love and happiness every day. DH ran an errand not too long ago and stopped at the store to grab me more iced coffee for tomorrow since he saw I'd used the last of it this AM. DH has been swamped with work lately and has been meaning to get his oil changed. I was off today so I took his car to do that and noticed a tire was low in air so filled it up. It's just the little things . Because when DH came home with the coffee he got a big hug and kiss and thank you ..when I got home, I got the same and he told me how much he appreciates me.

[Anonymous]

I tell him I like his boobs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Date nights
Set aside one on one time whenever you can
Lots of sex
Do something special for each other: DH makes me coffee every AM
Overlook petty annoyances
Compliment each other
Lots of hugs

We’ve been together for 28 years so we reminisce a lot, remind each other of funny stories, look at old pictures together, etc.

It’s all an effort but worth it!

Pretty much this.
We don’t schedule sex but we do have 3 hours blocked off every Sunday night for a Tantraesque session.
DH does things that he knows I will appreciate, and supports what I am into. I do things I know he appreciates. I think the big thing is prioritizing the relationship over my needs or his needs. When you both prioritize the relationships everyone’s needs are inherently met.

[Anonymous]

Romance only stays alive if you are kind, honest, caring, funny and fair because resentment is the biggest killer of romance.

Just take life easy, be good to each other, make time for things each of you likes, try new things, watch Netflix, text funny/silly/sexy things, do random day trips etc. Its not rocket science.

[Anonymous]

*let go of obsession of showing a perfectly curated picture of your life to others. It has zero value, nobody cares and it makes you insensitive to your partner's needs because you are more concerned about your marketing image.

[Anonymous]

Shake it up! Try to do something out of the ordinary. Recent examples from my almost empty nest 34 year relationship: museum exhibit and lunch on a weekend; concert with friends; late movie in a theater. It can be an effort to not just deal with chores/duties but sometimes you have to prioritize the relationship. It’s a kind of triage for the future.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sex is a big one
We go out every other week for a weekday dinner
We do weekly "date nights" at home where we put away electronics and do a puzzle and talk or just cuddle on the couch and talk
We go away for a night or weekend every other month

I think the biggest thing though is just the little things that we do every day that show how much we appreciate and love each other. It's easy to keep the romance alive when you feel the love and happiness every day. DH ran an errand not too long ago and stopped at the store to grab me more iced coffee for tomorrow since he saw I'd used the last of it this AM. DH has been swamped with work lately and has been meaning to get his oil changed. I was off today so I took his car to do that and noticed a tire was low in air so filled it up. It's just the little things . Because when DH came home with the coffee he got a big hug and kiss and thank you ..when I got home, I got the same and he told me how much he appreciates me.

Conversely, withholding sex or an attitude of “sex doesn’t matter to me,” is the kiss of death.

A marriage does not consist of you alone; a marriage requires two people.