T or F: Vacation = ok for less parenting
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I’m all about kids joining at nice restaurants, nice resorts, first class if parents can afford it, etc - none of my business, yolo. Jumping and splashing in a pool? Totally fine, it’s a pool. Giggling with delete, running around laughing loudly - wonderful.
But I also don’t think vacation is not a reason to parent your kids. Today at a very nice resort I’ve witnessed: 1) kid aged about 10 lying down on the floor of a busy restaurant in the middle of the walking area while mom talks loudly on her phone ignoring entirely. Buffet, people stepping over her. 2) kids aged 6ish running around the pool totally naked, then 1 proceeding to pee in the bushes. No parents to be found. 3) kid screaming “mom” over and over again, top of their lungs, at dinner, to the point where the old guy sitting a few tables down asked the kid to please quiet down. Mom had walked away to the bar (no other adults - just left the kid in high chair with older sibling). Mom was not in any hurry to get back to or quiet the kid. 4) woman yelling across a lobby repeatedly (“Sam” X 10) trying to get her teenage son to come over to her, vs just walking over or whatever. Emphasize YELLING. I’ve been there, in the thick of it when vacations are trips and a ton of work, and I never would have been okay with any of this. And I think it’s very disrespectful to the staff and other guests. And yes, some kids are tough and yes some learning or other differences that may impact efficacy of corrections etc, but then you adjust to what your kid can handle. This wasn’t it. And being a parent means doing that, even outside of your home. That’s my opinion, but: DCUM, what say you? |
Anonymous
| If the kids behave it’s fine. If they cannot they should not be there. |
Anonymous
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"very nice resort"
Resort travel dcum snob following... |
Anonymous
| I say book an adults only resort or restaurant and MYOB. |
Anonymous
| Where the heck are you vacationing OP?? |
Anonymous
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A minority of people are a--holes everywhere, not just when traveling. You just happen to be seeing it now while on vacation.
Not really travel related. |
Anonymous
| Holy cow, no. |
Anonymous
| Of course not, but you can't escape crappy parents at a family resort. When our kids were young we'd rent a house with a pool near a beach, always have breakfast at the house and half the dinners there (fire up the grille) and lunch on the go. The total cost was always far less than staying at a resort. If our kids made noise in the pool, it was our pool! |
Anonymous
Predictable class war responder responding… Do you have an opinion on the question? |
Anonymous
Ritz Carlton in St Thomas |
Anonymous
On Topic Police responding…. Who offered you the job, and why on earth would you accept this insufferable duty? |
Anonymous
| We travel a ton and the only thing I've ever seen on your list has been number 4, but that's something I see people do in lots of public places. I'm not saying you're lying but.....it seems really weird that all this happened on one single day and that it is apparently common enough for you that you take it as a "parents shouldn't stop parenting their kids" vs "today was a weird day where parents must have been fed up with over stimulated kids because of Christmas". |
Anonymous
4 isn’t kid specific and happens everywhere. Annoying for sure, but not vacation specific or unusual in my book. 1 I’d assume the kid had special needs, so I’d try not to judge too much… because otherwise it is too bizarre for words for a 10 year old. 2 I could see happening quicker than a parent would think. 3 seems like the older sib screwed up unless s/he was too young to be left in that position. |
Anonymous
| My observations: 1. There are some very badly-behaved children; 2. There are some very badly-behaved adults. |
Anonymous
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There are parents who have no idea how to parent. They have pushed their kids off to others to parent and then are totally lost when it is all on them. (Read post “Will vacation ever be fun?). When your kids aren’t having fun on vacation, maybe you should stay home, save the money and make everyone help to clean the basement/landscape project, etc.
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