Shared interests

[Anonymous]

Do you and your spouse have any shared hobbies? Do you think shared interests are important for a healthy marriage? My partner doesn’t like anything I’m into and doesn’t want to participate with me. I’m not into his stuff either but I do it with him to be a good sport sometimes.

[Anonymous]

you again?

[Anonymous]

There should be some overlap. 100% overlap is annoying for everyone around them.

[Anonymous]

Yes, especially in retirement, it's even more important. For example, I'm finally learning to golf.

[Anonymous]

We share interests in the things we can do when we don't have young kids: concerts, eating out, travel. So... yeah...

[Anonymous]

He likes to stay at home and do screen things (TV, social media, video games) but is amenable to me taking him to plays, concerts, museums, tours. He is unlikely to initiate planning but happy to go.

We both like to try new foods and cook and go to restaurants. He likes to play games and work on puzzles together.

We have similar music tastes, some overlap in TV and movie genres. When I read books for my book clubs he asks me about the plot updates as I read. In return, I ask about his football team and let him talk about cars. I DJ and he supports that.

He is not interested in trying golfing or pickleball, but I think he'd be into biking since he used to do it a lot.

I think a willingness to be supportive and feign interest goes a long way.

[Anonymous]

A combo of shared and our own interests works great for us..

[Anonymous]

I personally don't think it matters.

[Anonymous]

Shared hobbies? No. Shared interests? Yes.

We have very different hobbies. He loves sports (watching and playing), being outdoorsy (hiking, camping, fishing), finance, fixing things, etc. I like reading, art, travel, museums, theater (used to be a prof actress), etc.

But we have shared interests. We are looking to buy a new house and we've been driving around different parts of NoVA that we are considering each Saturday, looking at houses, getting a feel for the neighborhood, and we love spending time together like this. We are both attorneys with the same practice area and we chat about that a lot. We love our dogs and spend a lot of time out playing with and walking them. He does enjoy traveling with me when I plan it; we have gone lots of places he never would have on his own. We have friends we hang out with. Lots of shared interests -- the biggest one being this big adventure called life.

[Anonymous]

Porn

[Anonymous]

Snorkeling. Sailing.

[Anonymous]

Eating out, travel, exploring places, we have similar taste in tv shows documentaries, and movies, cooking. But we also can just sit and talk for hours

I don't think you necessarily need to share interests. But if you and your partner aren't willing to at least try to participate in each other's interests from time to time, I can't imagine it working out long term.