Group home or similar for neuro & physically typical

[Anonymous]

Are there group living situations - that run as a business - to help a young adult who is not ready to live alone but spinning wheels at parent’s house?


Think like that TLC show “Starting Over”

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Starting_Over_(TV_series)

[Anonymous]

There are residential places for failure to launch, if that's what you mean?

[Anonymous]

What supports are needed and can you pay out of pocket? What do you think they'd do during the day? Two possibilities are College Living Experience (multiple locations, including Rockville) and College Internship Program (Berkshires). Despite their names, the young adult doesn't need to attend college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are residential places for failure to launch, if that's what you mean?

Yes.

(Until 2 years ago I would have thought DS was going to college.

HS was friends, sports, extra curriculars, did school work.

Came home after first semester of college with no intention of returning.

Not working. Not studying. Struggles with clinical depression.

It is sad. My efforts seem futile. So hoping to outsource help.
-OP

[Anonymous]

OP---after doing a mental health workup (if you haven't already) look at SOARNC.org and their gap year program in Wyoming. It is perfect for young people in that age demographic who are struggling. Combines work, school and a number of significant outdoor trips. You need to make sure that there isn't a chemical issue at play, e.g. bipolar, but if there isn't, you need something that will jolt him out of the rut.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are residential places for failure to launch, if that's what you mean?

Yes.

(Until 2 years ago I would have thought DS was going to college.

HS was friends, sports, extra curriculars, did school work.

Came home after first semester of college with no intention of returning.

Not working. Not studying. Struggles with clinical depression.

It is sad. My efforts seem futile. So hoping to outsource help.
-OP

He’s not neurotypical; he’s depressed. Is his depression adequately treated?

[Anonymous]

He’s not neurotypical; he’s depressed. Is his depression adequately treated?

I misunderstood I thought neurotypical meant that there were no developmental/intellectual delays etc.

Diagnosed with depression few months ago and working with psychiatrist to get right Rx.

[Anonymous]

I wish there were boarding houses still around.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

He’s not neurotypical; he’s depressed. Is his depression adequately treated?

I misunderstood I thought neurotypical meant that there were no developmental/intellectual delays etc.

Diagnosed with depression few months ago and working with psychiatrist to get right Rx.

Just to be clear, I wasn't trying to give you flak about semantics--you have a young adult with a mental health diagnosis, and there are plenty of inpatient or intensive outpatient settings for treating that diagnosis. But I think looking around for a group living situation on the premise that he "is neurotypical" won't get you anywhere near what you need. Depressed housemates are bad housemates.

Truly, OP, a few months into a depression diagnosis is early days yet. All the best to you, him and the rest of your family.

[Anonymous]

OP - you're looking for the wrong thing here.
Your son needs treatment and your support, not to be kicked out of your house!! He needs to live with you while he gets therapy, meds, a job, etc. I'm not trying to be rude, but are you not American? Young men deserve to get help for mental health diagnoses - you really need to look at these next few years as getting him healthy. That comes first.

[Anonymous]

She's not kicking him out, she's considering that home might not be the best placement for him. He might do better with peers and with the accountability structure of a supported group home.

[Anonymous]

What about a supportive housing situation like Mansfield Hall?

https://mansfieldhall.org/about/

[Anonymous]

Not to derail this thread but a depressed person (barring any other diagnoses) IS neurotypical. Depression is not neurodivergence of any sort. I really hate when posters don't have a clue what they are talking about and start inserting their useless opinions.

OP, if you can give it a few more months for the meds to kick in and depression to resolve that might really help. Other than being depressed, and failing to launch what is your child doing to make you want him out of the house?

[Anonymous]

Thank you all

So, i don’t want to kick him out, but he’s not been the most respectful about our rules.
Adding to the issue is that a year out of rehab (for drugs) he is using again.
Obviously this adds to the current “sleeping life away”.
I hate our 12 yo seeing this. She doesn’t like being home when he’s altered (from illicit drugs)

I more or less am gathering information for what we may be looking for.

It looks like no one has any suggestions about living situations.

Peace out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thank you all

So, i don’t want to kick him out, but he’s not been the most respectful about our rules.
Adding to the issue is that a year out of rehab (for drugs) he is using again.
Obviously this adds to the current “sleeping life away”.
I hate our 12 yo seeing this. She doesn’t like being home when he’s altered (from illicit drugs)

I more or less am gathering information for what we may be looking for.

It looks like no one has any suggestions about living situations.

Peace out.

You're not getting good answers because you hid the ball. What you need is a substance abuse and mental health residential rehab program. Start a new thread requesting that and you will likely get better support.