Social Graces

[Anonymous]

How good are you at social graces? Thank you notes, remembering birthdays and anniversaries, sending food when someone is ill, sitting shiva / attending wakes, etc...? What have you clung on to and what have you let go?

[Anonymous]

I'm terrible at social graces and it pains me, but adult ADHD and the pressures of family life make it hard to change (and yes, I'm making excuses) even though I really mean to.

[Anonymous]

I have done nothing. No social graces at sll. But that seems similar to everyone else I know. I do try to be kind though.

[Anonymous]

I do thank you texts with dc holding the gift, I did paper ones when I had one dc but now I just can't get it done. I feel bad but.... for food, sometimes - I also do Uber Eats gift cards or send food from Zabar's (we are in NYC). In terms of death, it depends on my relationship but I do go for close friends' parents who have passed.

Birthdays and anniversaries, I am terrible at dates and I am not really a gift giving person to be honest. I think at our age, it is for your immediate family to celebrate your birthday and anniversary and sort of dislike having to attend things for like a friend's birthday if I'm honest.

[Anonymous]

Hmm. I do send thank you notes frequently. But I don’t remember anyone’s birthday other than my spouse and children. I do make meals for new babies, serious illness/surgery, death. I check in on friends i know are going through hard times. I’m terrible at responding to invitations promptly. I try.

[Anonymous]

DCUM told me thank you notes are actually rude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DCUM told me thank you notes are actually rude.

I can’t tell if this is sarcasm?