Aggressive pattern behavior

[Anonymous]

I’ve been noticing a behavior pattern in DS that drains my emotional well being. It’s an aggressive behavior in presence of DH, who usually does nothing to stop it.
As an example, just a few moments ago, I came back from a walk holding a cup of tea. DS said something disrespectful to me in DH’s presence. I firmly told him it’s unacceptable and he pushed me to a side causing the cup of tea to fell on the floor. DH’s reaction was to just ask DS “why did you do that?”.
What I sense is that DS perceives his father doesn’t love me and he feels his actions are secretly approved by his father (DH).

Thoughts?

[Anonymous]

You are being assaulted by your DS and came on here to ask us about our "thoughts"? About how you think it is happening because your DH doesn't love you?

Ok, troll. Lol. Ok.

People -- don't feed this troll.

[Anonymous]

Not a troll. Maybe I should have formulated the question in a different way.

[Anonymous]

Your DS’ behavior needs to be nipped in the bud by you. You are his mother. You are teaching him it’s ok to disrespect you, and perhaps other women.

In the example you gave, your DH seems to have at least called the kid out on the behavior. It’s your job to deal with your kid when he disrespects you and your DH’s job to support you. At least as presented, it seems like the failure was on your part.

[Anonymous]

Ds pushed you and made your drop your tea?!? I have three sons and would go insane if any of them disrespected me like this!
I would not even consider my DH standing up for me as I would handle it myself. It’s my relationship with them ffs. (My DH is a bit of a wimp anyways, smart and kind though).

Stand up for yourself, mama!

[Anonymous]

Yes I think you are right

[Anonymous]

Every time I stand for myself, DH doesn’t understand it and misinterpret it as an overreaction. He comes from a family where the women are expected to be submissive. He also mistreated my 79 y o mother in our child’s presence some years ago. It’s been hard to coparent with him. My discipline style is different than his.
I think he has early signs of dementia.

[Anonymous]

Correct your sons inappropriate actions towards you ASAP and every single time.

[Anonymous]

This is obviously a troll. Op is hitting every stereotype of a dumb, meak little housewife. No one is actually like that in real life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Every time I stand for myself, DH doesn’t understand it and misinterpret it as an overreaction. He comes from a family where the women are expected to be submissive. He also mistreated my 79 y o mother in our child’s presence some years ago. It’s been hard to coparent with him. My discipline style is different than his.
I think he has early signs of dementia.

Lol what? Now you're just confirming you're a troll with this.