Arlington bully
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Anonymous
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A kid is trying to bully my child. It’s been going on for weeks. We’ve blocked my child from just knocking him out. Do I keep on the school to do their jobs? Is this even their job?
Do I raise it to the county? Middle school |
Anonymous
| Define "keep on the school." What have you done, and how has the school responded? |
Anonymous
Anonymous
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If it’s a safety concern or he’s getting physically hurt, report electronically but also call the school bullying coordinator (there is a list online- I think it’s usually the head counselor, assistant principal, and anyone else you can reach and be very explicit that it’s a safety issue.
If it’s verbal bullying, report to the school- repeatedly if necessary- but also work with your kid on how he responds. My kid struggled socially and a fair bit of his social skills class was focused on responding to bullying. Ignoring by sitting quietly is not always the best way. It’s often better to turn to a friend and start a conversation about anything else. Come up with an excuse to leave. Call them out on it- why are you always on me about x, it’s gotten really boring. Or have them think of a few insults to snap back. Know your kid - my kid freezes and could never smoothly snap back, but it works well for some. Learning to deal with jerks is an important skill that everyone needs. |
Anonymous
| Have you spoken with the guidance counselor for the grade? I've been really impressed with ours and his understanding of middle schoolers and would start there. |
Anonymous
| Don’t block him. Let your son punch him right in the nose. It’ll stop. |
Anonymous
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How old?
Unfortunately schools now are wussy factories. If they’re verbally abusing your kids tell them to ignore it as they’ll go away. If it’s physical tell your kid to defend themselves. If they don’t rusty realizing now the world is a crappy place they won’t realize they need to defend themselves and they’ll be beta and bullied their whole life. If my kid is physically bullied they have the ability to defend themselves and I tell them to. They won’t get punished by me if they get hit first and then decide to have the assailant catch these hands. If someone hits your or ours their hands on you; you have every right to make sure their hands aren’t put on you again. |
Anonymous
| Act quickly on this. It is their job. Contact the counselor, copy the VP for the grade. |
Anonymous
| Use the online form. It is one sure way to get the school to respond and take steps. Can you share which school? My kids are at Kenmore and there are some patterns there. |