Would you be annoyed by this?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been on a personal weight loss journey for the past couple of years. I worked out, ate well, and have kept off the weight. I went from obese to normal on the BMI scale.

I have a friend who last year started Ozempic. She lost a fair amount of weight, then disappeared over the summer to visit family and travel—she’s a teacher and has summers off. When she came back, she had lost even more weight. I am happy and proud of her because she’s struggled for years with weight. She looks amazing.

My husband and her husband ran into each other this past weekend, and the husband admitted to my husband, in an almost spiteful way, apparently, that yeah, she used Ozempic, but also she had liposuction and a breast reduction over the summer, and oh yeah, she’s also basically anorexic now, so there’s that, but shh, don’t tell her I told you. He was drunk.

She keeps posting pics of how proud she is of her “hard work and dedication” and I’m sort of annoyed, and I don’t know why. Wasn’t sure where to post but thought this might be the most relatable place.

[Anonymous]

She’s basically anorexic and her husband is spiteful. There’s nothing to be jealous about here

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She’s basically anorexic and her husband is spiteful. There’s nothing to be jealous about here

This is true. She lost weight at the cost of an eating disorder and having to undergo major (and dangerous) surgery.

[Anonymous]

I get why you’d be annoyed at her social media bragging…but an ED + increased attention seeking on SM + a spiteful husband abusing alcohol & trash talking her = a life out of balance. It’s not looking like a happy home.

[Anonymous]

Who cares. Exactly how do her actions affect you, OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who cares. Exactly how do her actions affect you, OP?

+1 Why would you post about this too? You sound like a terrible friend.

[Anonymous]

OP, this comes in many forms. My SIL use to lecture everyone about exercising. She had "found" exercising. Yes, but she also had weight-loss surgery she wasn't telling anyone about. Point is: this has always been going on.

Op, you can not and have no right to criticize what she posts. Don't like it - don't look. IF she SAYS ad nauseam, how good she looks, you could try saying, "yeah, with some other help." Something vague. She'll wonder what it is you know. It tone down her bragging.

[Anonymous]

FWIW, it's actual work to recover from surgery. Just let it go. No, I wouldn't be annoyed. It's not like she's winning some prize by losing weight the way she has.

[Anonymous]

She had a breast reduction. FFS. They’re usually covered by insurance.
Not a good look OP!

[Anonymous]

I would be annoyed too!!! But nothing you can do about it. Hang in there and be proud of the work you did/are doing. PS. What's your strategy for keeping it off? I need some motivation and discipline!!!

[Anonymous]

Breast reduction is for medical reasons. If you lose weight and you want to look normal you often need surgery.

I'm glad she is getting healthy.

Too bad her H is an alcoholic.

You need therapy.

[Anonymous]

OP, it's totally fine to come on here and note your annoyance--it is a safe place to do so. And much better than being spiteful or annoyed among mutual friends or acquaintances. Her husband is no "alcoholic" because he was drunk on an evening (I'm sure all the posters who wrote that have had similar experiences with themselves or their husbands). You also don't need therapy or need to be shamed for feeling an emotion that I'm sure lots of the posters here would feel. It's perfectly normal. Most people totally get it, whether they want to admit it or not. Your friend has obviously taken some drastic measures and sometimes people (women especially) do that to gain control in this area (weight). The real issue is whether the husband's description of her ED is real. If it is, then maybe at some point you'll need to be there for her, if you're close friends. Taking GLP-1 or getting some plastic surgery aren't game changers or detrimental to one's life ... ED for sure is. In that respect, I'd say that you should try and be a little more compassionate (if true) because that is a hard thing to come back from.

[Anonymous]

You’re not concerned that her husband is talking $hit behind her back? Some friend you are. Jealousy is not a good look.

[Anonymous]

I would just unfollow her on social media. That's what I do with anyone who is constantly posting about themself.