Girly girl only has boys to play with

[Anonymous]

My 5 year old girly girl that loves princess and dolls wants to play with girls. Somehow, boys love to play with her, and she gets birthday invites and playdates only from boys. Some boys are not from her class, and they probably play at recess. Boys from daycare still want to play with her even though they don't go to same school now. I am confused why no girls want to play with her at this school. She is a sweet one but on the shy one. She used to play with many girls at daycare. It all changes when she attends kindergarten.

I have talked to teacher, but teacher has not done much. She is confused too why other girls at school are not as sweet or as nice from daycare. She has tried to approach some, but they seem do not want to play with her. She is confused, but she does not seem to feel hurt emotionally as of now because many boys love to play with her.

[Anonymous]

They may have pre existing friendships. My girl (but not my boy) experienced this in kindergarten and a bit in first grade. Not thereafter. Many of the kids, mine included, seemed to stick largely with the kids they already knew coming in. We tried play dates but none were ever reciprocated and I truly don’t think it’s an issue with kid or me, since we didn’t have that issue in preschool, or after first grade. Also never had it with older child. Sometimes the cohorts are just a bit off and it takes a couple of years. If your daughter is happy okaying with the boys, let her do that. She’ll find the princess make believe friends eventually.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They may have pre existing friendships. My girl (but not my boy) experienced this in kindergarten and a bit in first grade. Not thereafter. Many of the kids, mine included, seemed to stick largely with the kids they already knew coming in. We tried play dates but none were ever reciprocated and I truly don’t think it’s an issue with kid or me, since we didn’t have that issue in preschool, or after first grade. Also never had it with older child. Sometimes the cohorts are just a bit off and it takes a couple of years. If your daughter is happy okaying with the boys, let her do that. She’ll find the princess make believe friends eventually.

Op here. It may be pre existing friendships among those girls. I would never know the truth or reason. Some girls from daycare misses my daughter, so those moms reach out and we still get to see each other. Since school started, we have seen a few girls 1:1 or in a group like 8 times already. She is now seeking comfort and happiness from playing with her old girl friends who no longer go to same school, and I hope those friendship won't fade away over time so soon or else my daughter definitely feel sad.

[Anonymous]

This is not a problem. That is why the teacher “hasn’t done much.” Your daughter has friends, that is all that matters. Children like playing with other children that have the same interests. Some young girls like to play elaborate imagination games. This can look a lot like standing around the playground, or gathering grass/leaves, etc. Boys tend to be more physical and interact with the equipment, organize games, or run more. These are all broad generalizations. Your daughter seems to enjoy the style of play that the boys are doing. Don’t buy trouble where there is none. -Former teacher