My husband is accusing me of bullying him
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Anonymous
| I am flummoxed as I don't believe I do...but can you guys give me tips on how to stop this? |
Anonymous
| What is he saying you do? Are you doing it and don't think it's bullying, or do you not think you are doing it? |
Anonymous
Asking him to make more money as I am pregnant and concerned about our soon to be rise in costs. |
Anonymous
What does "asking" mean here? Are you raising finances as a point of concern that should be discussed? Or are you belittling, emasculating, berating and trying to cajole him into making more? |
Anonymous
Uh how do you expect him to do that? If he could magically get promoted or find a better paying job, wouldn't he already have done that? |
Anonymous
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^ this
OP-apologize to your DH and tell him your pregnancy hormones are making you crazy |
Anonymous
| Talk to your therapist, if you don't have one get one. |
Anonymous
| Your OP is too vague - how can we actually give you meaningful advice? Your follow-up isn’t detailed enough, either. We can’t help you unless you explain your communication/dynamic a bit more. |
Anonymous
| How many times have you asked him to do that in day, October? What is the point of asking more than once? |
Anonymous
| Does your husband lack ambition ? Or are you just in a state of panic brought on by your first pregnancy/first child ? Or both / |
Anonymous
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Maybe you should find a better paying job or figure out how to reduce expenses. It doesn’t help to keep
Asking that he get a better paying job because they don’t just magically appear. |
Anonymous
| OMG are you the OP who lives in a condo or something? If you've posted before can you just save us all the headache of rehashing the same issues again and again? |
Anonymous
He’s DARVO’ ing you so DARVO him back each and every time. If he’s smart he’ll see how stupid he is and cut it out. Or he’ll keep circling the toilet drain with his antics. |
Anonymous
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Accuse of bullying is a strong reaction. Would need to know how you asked and what he said.
The fact that this is what he said — unless you insulted him blatantly with curse words or hit him or threatened him — suggests he may be borderline or have NPD. Look up the website Out of the Fog. |
Anonymous
| We need an example. He says you bully, you say you don't. No evidence on either side. |