Other kids who brag about their academics

[Anonymous]

How do you all ga die wgen friends, relatives brag about things like being they grade levels higher in math or English? As a super academic achiever myself, I would never dies like that as a kid and my parents would have been horrified if I did.

However, it am most worried about DD who hasASD and multiple learning differences and who gets easily upset when she’s exposed to thus because of dyscalculia. Any great talk points to pass on to her so she doesn’t beat herself up or ours about where she is mathematically to keep up?

[Anonymous]

Teach her to stop comparing herself to others and to worry about herself. Other people’s choices are not your business. There’s no need to police such talk or to have talking points. This scenario is going to repeat over and over in all different ways so best to get her able to drown it out now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Teach her to stop comparing herself to others and to worry about herself. Other people’s choices are not your business. There’s no need to police such talk or to have talking points. This scenario is going to repeat over and over in all different ways so best to get her able to drown it out now.

That’s part of it and when we do. However talking points can be very helpful in many scenarios.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Teach her to stop comparing herself to others and to worry about herself. Other people’s choices are not your business. There’s no need to police such talk or to have talking points. This scenario is going to repeat over and over in all different ways so best to get her able to drown it out now.

That’s part of it and when we do. However talking points can be very helpful in many scenarios.

Also I wasn’t policing but I do get to have thoughts on other people’s actions and how they come across when it intersects with my life

[Anonymous]

I have my kid say I’m happy that that’s your situation. I like to work hard at X.


I do think it’s some braggart parents in this area that fail to teach kids humility

[Anonymous]

Just say “good for you” and move along. Repeat as needed. Saying nothing will extend the conversation.

[Anonymous]

You sound like the most awful mom in my kid's sns social skills group. You probably talk your kid up a lot and are jealous if another kid achieves anything. I know your type too well. If it isn't about your kid, no one should be talking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound like the most awful mom in my kid's sns social skills group. You probably talk your kid up a lot and are jealous if another kid achieves anything. I know your type too well. If it isn't about your kid, no one should be talking.

Wow. Ok.


Thanks to others for the helpful navigation advice

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have my kid say I’m happy that that’s your situation. I like to work hard at X.


I do think it’s some braggart parents in this area that fail to teach kids humility

Thanks!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just say “good for you” and move along. Repeat as needed. Saying nothing will extend the conversation.

Thank you!

[Anonymous]

OP this may help. https://childmind.org/article/how-to-help-kids-dyscalculia/


FWIW I caught my kid in a similar situation recently. I was able to remind all kids that it doesn’t matter what level they are at What’s most important is they work hard and out they’re best efforts forward

[Anonymous]

This isn’t just something you encounter with academics. It also happens with sports, theater, music, art, hobbies and virtually everything else in life. I helped my kid identify where they excel and always shared that they should be happy when others achieve in their strong suits. As for what to say, you just say that you’re happy whatever is going so well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This isn’t just something you encounter with academics. It also happens with sports, theater, music, art, hobbies and virtually everything else in life. I helped my kid identify where they excel and always shared that they should be happy when others achieve in their strong suits. As for what to say, you just say that you’re happy whatever is going so well.

Same. Unfortunately my DD struggles in many areas, but we focus on strengths. And we are blunt with her that she has weaknesses in certain areas, but everyone does and that’s how life is, period. It’s hard, but better than her feeling surprised when she realizes she isn’t stacking up against peers in some ways.

We frequently remind her not to brag about her successes, because others are inevitably struggling with that same thing and we want to be respectful of differences.

[Anonymous]

Meh. It must be the parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound like the most awful mom in my kid's sns social skills group. You probably talk your kid up a lot and are jealous if another kid achieves anything. I know your type too well. If it isn't about your kid, no one should be talking.

And you sound the type who professes no judgment yet here you are