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Anonymous
| The recent thread has me stressing about the outstanding thank you's I have yet to send out for DC's christening. It was in mid-June and the time just got away from me. So how long is too long (i.e. rude) to wait to send out thank you's? |
Anonymous
| It's never too late. It's just the longer you wait, the more embarrassing it gets. Ideally it gets done in a week or so (my mother taught me the next day). However, I just got a WONDERFUL thank you note from a mom of a girl who had a birthday about 6 weeks ago. They are always appreciated, IMO, late or not. |
Anonymous
Agree. |
Anonymous
| I agree with the PP. Especially given it's summer time, kids off school, families traveling, etc, makes it probably more forgivable if say the card came later than it would have otherwise (though school season time is obviously busy, too). About 2 months later is still reasonable, I think. |
aprilmayjune
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| I guess the PP is probably right. I never fully understood the proper etiquette.. I got married 5 years ago, bought the cards, even made most of them out, but than I moved down here and it just never got done.. Embarrassing, but sometimes life gets the best of us. |
Anonymous
You did not send thank you notes for wedding gifts? You have a year in which to do this. We do the things that are important to us and it appears that thanking those who may hae travelled from distant place or even down the road and you can't send a thank you note? Life did not get the best of you, laziness did. Shame on you. |
Anonymous
Within two weeks of christening. But it is better to send them late than to never send them. |
Anonymous
No, you don't. People have a year to give you a gift. Waiting a year to write thank you notes is rude and just lazy. Not writing them all is even worse. |
Anonymous
Why not write the thank you's now? I agree that people usually put in a lot of effort and cash in to attending weddings, thanking them for attending is always welcome. |
Anonymous
| Better late than never. DEFINITELY send them. And no,you do not have a year to send thank-yous. You have a year from the wedding date to give a gift, but not a year to send the thank-you. Can't tell you how many times I have gotten thank you a year later. But, again, better late than never. |
Anonymous
I would be mortified! How do you look someone in the face knowing they sent you a wedding gift and you didn't send them a thank you note. I got all mine out (250 guests within 2 months. Agree - with PP, rude, lazy and selfish. If I didn't get a thank you note, I would send you a new gift, a book on Emily Post. |
Anonymous
| You should do it within two weeks, but late is much better than never. |
Anonymous
Hey, AprilMayJune, just wanted to say I'm in the same boat, so don't feel alone. I was pregnant and a week after the wedding, I got a virus that lasted for a couple of months-- terrible vertigo and couldn't read or anything without throwing up. Had the baby but suffered PPD that left me barely functioning for months. PPD was just getting under control when DD experienced a developmental regression similar to autism. A few years and lots of intensive therapy later, DD is going well and life is finally seeming like it's not just one crisis after another. I feel sooo guilty about the notes, especially because I was so touched that people actually took the time and expense to come to our wedding. Frankly, I was already uncomfortable with the idea that friends and family were spending money to fly in for the wedding, buy gifts, etc. (Many of my friends were in grad school at the time or working in low-pay public interest jobs.) |