Men who can’t control their emotions
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Anonymous
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I don’t remember witnessing grown men loose their temper like I have recently. Things like screaming and saying mean things and then acting like nothing happened. And the kids are witnessing this. Our house consists of walking on eggshells so Dad doesn’t get triggered and loose his junk.
We’re not the only family who deals with this. What’s going on |
Anonymous
| Sadly, this is not new. |
Anonymous
| It just means you grew up with regulated parents. I grew up with a mom like this. It’s nothing new, unfortunately. |
Anonymous
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It happens all the time. I promise, it really does. But nobody ever talks about it, so we as a society pretend it doesn't.
This is, unfortunately, the kind of thing that people in that household witness, and maybe their closest friends or family hear about, but nobody else ever knows it happened. My husband grew up hiding under the dining room table to escape his father's rage. Everyone from his community thinks his family was the model of family perfection - well behaved children, happy parents. But only in public. It's not new. But that doesn't mean it's right, or OK. We're here to help if you need resources. Some of us have been there. |
Anonymous
| It isn't a man thing. My sister in law is like that as well. She has a major anger management problem and loses it frequently. When angry, she says the nastiest things she can and then later laughs it off saying that is how Latina women are. Everyone in the house walks on eggshells and spends their lives trying to keep her happy and calm. |
Anonymous
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There’s a whole movement and industry geared towards normalizing these behaviors. Yes, it happened in the past, but for awhile we were leaning towards a consensus that it’s not ok. Now we are going backwards.
How old are your kids? |
Anonymous
| Is this happening in your house OP? If so, anger management classes for your DH. When your children live with this, it changes who they are. Why is this acceptable behavior to you? |
Anonymous
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I remember alcohol doing it to people when I was growing up. Now I see grown-ups who were severely abused or neglected as kids doing it.
The very last one was an Aspie not being able to control their emotions screaming in my car. I actually haven't seen a Latina do it in public, just on youtube. My theory is that poverty has lots to do with it. Many don't even recognize that growing up poor, seeing poverty, and violence has a lot to do with it. |
Anonymous
| Real men don’t have emotions. |
Anonymous
Same. And DH grew up with parents who yelled. We are the opposite. We never yell and have our emotions in pretty good check because of what we grew up with (both did therapy as adults). |
Anonymous
| OP described my mom. I don’t know about men but my mom has been raging since the 1960s. |
Anonymous
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Of course it happens to women too but men are taught that anger is not an emotion and that it doesn't need to be dealt w/ through meds or therapy.
OP - he needs to get help to address it ASAP or you need to get OUT. |
Anonymous
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It starts with raising your sons to realize they are not more important than others, especially females. And also, teach your sons that emotions are not the enemy that needs suppressed.
It happens because men are used to getting their way and can't handle their emotions when they don't. |
Anonymous
Your misandry is blinding you to the truth. - some women also have anger problems - not all men do - you are asking men to suppress (control) their emotions while saying that the problem is men being taught to suppress their emotions |
Anonymous
| That person is a psycho. Keep the children safe. |