What's your vision of your elder years?

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What conveniences would you want without inconveniencing your loved ones?

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What on Earth do you mean? Really strange sentence syntax.

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Anonymous wrote:What conveniences would you want without inconveniencing your loved ones?

My vision is living in a three bedroom apartment near metro. Plenty of room for visitors, no stairs, an elevator.

I know a place where there are several widows/widowers in their 80's, who originally moved in with their spouses.

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Continuing care so someone else is taking care of maintenance, medical needs (once I can't manage on my own), cooking (when I can't/don't want to), housecleaning, and recreation.

And I'd like to be in a unit large enough for guests, if it looks as though we'll have any.

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Anonymous wrote:What conveniences would you want without inconveniencing your loved ones?

My vision is living in a three bedroom apartment near metro. Plenty of room for visitors, no stairs, an elevator.

I know a place where there are several widows/widowers in their 80's, who originally moved in with their spouses.

My mother always said this too. She's since changed her plan to age in place. It just seemed like she kept using her home, she has strong connections with her neighbors and decided against uprooting herself once she hit her late 60s.

She's local, so she signed up with Goodwin House at Home, which helps you age in place. It's been incredible. Any health issue, they offer at home care during the recuperation. Before accepting her, they asked for a few safety changes to be made to her home, which she did. The focus on prevention of issues (like falls) since they are providing care. They also give her a cognitive assessment annually to ensure that she can still make decisions for herself and is safe at home. She agreed to all of this up front. The peace of mind it's given me, as her child in the closest proximity, has been HUGE.

I do think it's an expensive undertaking. But it's a terrific model and I wish there were lots of options like this.

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Anonymous wrote:What on Earth do you mean? Really strange sentence syntax.

I meant wanting to move in with with kids or them to move in with you or similar things which would warrant loved ones to sacrifice. That's not a realistic vision.

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I would want to live in a small condo with big windows near public transport, park, grocery store, hospital with pharmacy and a community center with gym and library.

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*condo building would've short term rentals where visiting families of any resident can stay.

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Ideally my building would be in a child's extended neighborhood so its not too much effort for them to visit when they can.

[Anonymous]

Downsizing to a TH or condo near the Reston Town Center (we live in a SFH in Loudoun). We have a lot of friends, a good church, want to live near an airport, hospital, metro, etc. Why not?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What on Earth do you mean? Really strange sentence syntax.

I meant wanting to move in with with kids or them to move in with you or similar things which would warrant loved ones to sacrifice. That's not a realistic vision.

yeah not a realistic vision.

I'm not quiting my job to care for an elderly parent, so I wouldn't expect that of my kids either.. Also don't want to be tied down to not being able to travel for 10-14 days without having to arrange 24/7 care. So same goes for my kids.

We will buy into a CCRC in early to mid 70s, or will will manage at home with in-home care (we can afford it). Already have a single floor condo so very accessible as you age (and only a single step into the shower).

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We have no CCRC's in our area. But we have sold home with main bedroom on second floor. We have a full suite with kitchenette on second floor in new place, with 3 bedrooms/3 baths on main floor. We hope to hire a caretaker when we get closer to needing help and a financial guardian. A tall order, I know.

Our only child (a son) lives abroad with his own family. His wife is very wealthy, and they live in same city with her family, so he doesn't need our money. While we all get along, and we travel there to visit grandkids, I can't count on/expect them to in any way help us navigate our later years.

So we are working on figuring out a plan.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What conveniences would you want without inconveniencing your loved ones?

My vision is living in a three bedroom apartment near metro. Plenty of room for visitors, no stairs, an elevator.

I know a place where there are several widows/widowers in their 80's, who originally moved in with their spouses.

My mother always said this too. She's since changed her plan to age in place. It just seemed like she kept using her home, she has strong connections with her neighbors and decided against uprooting herself once she hit her late 60s.

She's local, so she signed up with Goodwin House at Home, which helps you age in place. It's been incredible. Any health issue, they offer at home care during the recuperation. Before accepting her, they asked for a few safety changes to be made to her home, which she did. The focus on prevention of issues (like falls) since they are providing care. They also give her a cognitive assessment annually to ensure that she can still make decisions for herself and is safe at home. She agreed to all of this up front. The peace of mind it's given me, as her child in the closest proximity, has been HUGE.

I do think it's an expensive undertaking. But it's a terrific model and I wish there were lots of options like this.

Wow, that's really cool. Sounds like a service that should be offered universally as people age.

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Pretty much cats and books tbh.

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Anonymous wrote:I would want to live in a small condo with big windows near public transport, park, grocery store, hospital with pharmacy and a community center with gym and library.

+1 A decent sized patio so I can grow some flowers or something.

I visited my aunt and uncle who are in their 60s and 70s, and they have this exact layout. It's awesome. I kept telling my spouse that this is what I want.