Dementia, being mean

[Anonymous]

Please help me understand - this isn’t classic dementia aggression, due to confusion. My mom told me that it was her charity to let me go to uni, which is free in my homeland, and to which I would have had a legal right any way. 2 days later, I tell her that hopefully I’ll feel better soon (long struggle with Covid, almost 2 months), and then I can visit and we can go to do something she likes (opera, concerts). I was really looking forward. She totally ignores me, when I repeat myself she just says “oh well” - I know this isn’t her, it’s not confusion or aggression because I know she understood me. It’s like she couldn’t care at all. Very hurtful…

[Anonymous]

Why do you think this isn't classic dementia aggression? Dementia can cause changes in behavior completely unrelated to confusion.

[Anonymous]

Its terrible and normal with dementia, and it only gets worse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do you think this isn't classic dementia aggression? Dementia can cause changes in behavior completely unrelated to confusion.

It’s not aggressive, like hitting and screaming. It’s just really hurtful in a passive aggressive way, I guess. I never read that this could be the result of dementia confusion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do you think this isn't classic dementia aggression? Dementia can cause changes in behavior completely unrelated to confusion.

It’s not aggressive, like hitting and screaming. It’s just really hurtful in a passive aggressive way, I guess. I never read that this could be the result of dementia confusion.

No, it's possible. Some get very mean verbally, possibly passive aggressive.
It's not the mother you know speaking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do you think this isn't classic dementia aggression? Dementia can cause changes in behavior completely unrelated to confusion.

It’s not aggressive, like hitting and screaming. It’s just really hurtful in a passive aggressive way, I guess. I never read that this could be the result of dementia confusion.

This is very much a stage of dementia. The physical combative comes next.

[Anonymous]

This is typical dementia, you dummy. Patients can become very detached or mean. They can become aggressive. They don't need to be both at once.

[Anonymous]

Well I mean, look at Trump.

[Anonymous]

^^LOL. The same can be said for Joe Biden.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is typical dementia, you dummy. Patients can become very detached or mean. They can become aggressive. They don't need to be both at once.

What is wrong with you that you need to call someone names?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^^LOL. The same can be said for Joe Biden.

Biden has parkensons.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely a sign of dementia. And typically worse in the evening- sundowning.