My best friend ignoring me? Trying not to take it personal

[Anonymous]

My best friend’s mother passed away two months ago. I completely understand that this is still fresh for her, so I don’t try to pressure or hound her to talk. This post is simply to help me navigate what to do and to understand.

I tried called her a couple of days ago. I left her voicemail just letting her know I was just checking on her. She didn’t call back. I completely understand that I’m not entitled to her time, especially now while she’s grieving. Earlier today I ran into our old classmate who said she ran into my best friend yesterday at a local festival with some guy. I’m glad she’s getting out but I am little confused. She’s up for not talking but going out instead? I hope that she’s not ignoring me. I’m thankful that I haven’t experienced what she’s going through so I’m trying to figure out what’s going on. How can she want to out with someone but not talk to me? I genuinely want to understand. I’m trying not to take it personal.

Thoughts?

[Anonymous]

Sometimes with a best friend, it takes more energy to have a chat when you’re going through a lot. Since you know the convo will go deep and you’ll be vulnerable. I can’t pretend with my BF if I’m not doing well, but I could easily put on a smile for random people who don’t really know me.

[Anonymous]

I didn't want to talk with close friends after my mother died suddenly. If we got together I'd have to talk about it and I wasn't ready to. I rathered talk with people who wouldn't peer sympathetically into my eyes and say "No, but how ARE you? Really." I couldn't handle that.