14-year-old

[Anonymous]

My (generally fairly responsible) 14-year-old daughter asked me late last night if she could go to a concert tomorrow that's around a 90-minute drive away. Would likely get home after 1 a.m. Would go with a friend, friend's dad would drop off and pick up but not stay. I know the friend's mom but not the dad (they're divorced). My initial response was "no way" but thinking it over, I'm questioning if I'm being too strict. I am OK in principle with her going to a concert, but the distance, not knowing the parent, and the last-minute request give me pause. (Also not wild about the school night but that wouldn't be a total dealbreaker on its own.)

[Anonymous]

I’d probably be fine with that. In 2-3 years, you’ll have to worry about the kids themselves doing the driving.

[Anonymous]

No - too young to be out past midnight with only a peer.

[Anonymous]

Go with your first instinct. No. She is too young.

[Anonymous]

Is this the Sabrina carpenter concert in Charlottesville. Yes if you lived there, no if you don’t.

[Anonymous]

Don't know the girl/parents? No.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely not. Especially on a school night.

[Anonymous]

Hell no

Too young for that and for me the school night would be a problem.

[Anonymous]

I'd say no. Only 14, you don't know the dad, he's not staying (where will he be? what if it's at a bar?), it's an hour and a half away ... absolutely not.

[Anonymous]

What's the concert?

I'd probably talk to the parents about plans (Where are they during the concert? Do they have a meet up plan? When do the expect to hit the road and return home?)

Some parents I know who would do this type of thing would be conscientious about it and communicate clearly. But unfortunately, some parents I know who would do this type of thing would drink 4 beers at a bar and hop back in the car with the teens.

[Anonymous]

No.

[Anonymous]

No. At age 14 I wouldn’t allow drop off at a large concert- would want an adult present. A little too young for that yet IMO.

[Anonymous]

Hard no for me.

[Anonymous]

I would say yes. What could go wrong?

[Anonymous]

Drop off, absolutely not. We have a 15 year old and gone to a lot of concerts. We always go. They can sit near us, but we always sit with them. We've never an issue but we've seen lots of alcohol, drugs, a man harassaing a women (which was promptly dealt with), fights.