Vent on coaches and their terrible communication skills

[Anonymous]

Not sure if we are just unlucky but every coach my child has had is a terrible communicator about basics- when practice starts, try out days, where games are etc, and there are regular omissions and typos. We’ve missed try out days because the school calendar was wrong, traveled to games at the wrong place (just parents, kid got on the bus) again because the school calendar was wrong and they forgot to update. Etc.

Latest is dc is being asked to go to a junior ‘recruit’ day at a well known school and literally every single communication about the event does not mention the actual date! ‘Be here by 9AM latest!’… but with no date. ?? I dug through several older emails to find the date and it says *Friday*, Sept 21 (Sept 21 is a *Saturday*).

Fine. Mistakes happen. But it’s just ironic to me how demanding some of these coaches can be with kids- ‘no excuses, boys!’ type stuff all the time.

Vent over.

[Anonymous]

You do realize coaches are paid very little, right? How about you coach.

[Anonymous]

I knew I’d get something nasty. Of course. You do realize student athletes are paid 0, right? As are parents. The point is that many coaches are super demanding and critical of kids with ‘no excuses!’ type attitude about everything, but don’t always seem to hold themselves up to the same standards.

[Anonymous]

Sorry that your experience has been so bad. Overall, we have had mostly great experiences from rec to travel to HS coaches.

As a former coach, I used to partner with someone, a team parent or asst coach to focus on communications.

[Anonymous]

I have a lot of experience with coaches.

My son played at a top level college and is an all American and now plays semipro.

Coaches are not hired for their executive functioning skills.

Part of the reason people love to hire athletes is because they are able to tolerate all the terrible things about coaches.

Most are slightly crazy. They are generally terrible at understanding the implications of telling you a schedule on Wednesday night and then changing it Friday at 10 PM for Saturday.

Just be happy if you have a coach it’s good at X’s and O’s.

Then be thankful if they are not verbally abusive.

And then if they Have executive functioning skills holy cow coach of the year!

Maybe you find your coach a mom who loves to be organized. Win-win gives something to do and you guys show up to the right place at the right time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I knew I’d get something nasty. Of course. You do realize student athletes are paid 0, right? As are parents. The point is that many coaches are super demanding and critical of kids with ‘no excuses!’ type attitude about everything, but don’t always seem to hold themselves up to the same standards.

Exactly and perfect. They are completely prepared for the working world where their Boss expects everything but completely sucks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a lot of experience with coaches.

My son played at a top level college and is an all American and now plays semipro.

Coaches are not hired for their executive functioning skills.

Part of the reason people love to hire athletes is because they are able to tolerate all the terrible things about coaches.

Most are slightly crazy. They are generally terrible at understanding the implications of telling you a schedule on Wednesday night and then changing it Friday at 10 PM for Saturday.

Just be happy if you have a coach it’s good at X’s and O’s.

Then be thankful if they are not verbally abusive.

And then if they Have executive functioning skills holy cow coach of the year!

Maybe you find your coach a mom who loves to be organized. Win-win gives something to do and you guys show up to the right place at the right time.

This is actually super helpful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a lot of experience with coaches.

My son played at a top level college and is an all American and now plays semipro.

Coaches are not hired for their executive functioning skills.

Part of the reason people love to hire athletes is because they are able to tolerate all the terrible things about coaches.

Most are slightly crazy. They are generally terrible at understanding the implications of telling you a schedule on Wednesday night and then changing it Friday at 10 PM for Saturday.

Just be happy if you have a coach it’s good at X’s and O’s.

Then be thankful if they are not verbally abusive.

And then if they Have executive functioning skills holy cow coach of the year!

Maybe you find your coach a mom who loves to be organized. Win-win gives something to do and you guys show up to the right place at the right time.

This is actually super helpful.

It is. But why a mom?

[Anonymous]

You coach yiou lazy SOB

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a lot of experience with coaches.

My son played at a top level college and is an all American and now plays semipro.

Coaches are not hired for their executive functioning skills.

Part of the reason people love to hire athletes is because they are able to tolerate all the terrible things about coaches.

Most are slightly crazy. They are generally terrible at understanding the implications of telling you a schedule on Wednesday night and then changing it Friday at 10 PM for Saturday.

Just be happy if you have a coach it’s good at X’s and O’s.

Then be thankful if they are not verbally abusive.

And then if they Have executive functioning skills holy cow coach of the year!

Maybe you find your coach a mom who loves to be organized. Win-win gives something to do and you guys show up to the right place at the right time.

This is actually super helpful.

It is. But why a mom?

Stereotypically moms are more organized. My DH is more organized than me and it ends up throwing other people off when he's the one who remembers everything and can get people where they need to go when they need to be there better than I can. Everyone just assumes all dads are the disorganized coach.

But if you find the organized dad by all means have him do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You do realize coaches are paid very little, right? How about you coach.[/quote

So if you don’t get paid well, you don’t do your job right ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a lot of experience with coaches.

My son played at a top level college and is an all American and now plays semipro.

Coaches are not hired for their executive functioning skills.

Part of the reason people love to hire athletes is because they are able to tolerate all the terrible things about coaches.

Most are slightly crazy. They are generally terrible at understanding the implications of telling you a schedule on Wednesday night and then changing it Friday at 10 PM for Saturday.

Just be happy if you have a coach it’s good at X’s and O’s.

Then be thankful if they are not verbally abusive.

And then if they Have executive functioning skills holy cow coach of the year!

Maybe you find your coach a mom who loves to be organized. Win-win gives something to do and you guys show up to the right place at the right time.

Reading this again and it made me lol, thank you. I was looking at the emails for this event I mentioned again. Start time was initially noon, then a later message said be there at 9:30 and then it became 9AM. It’s a 2 hour drive for us; I’m sure longer for many families. Sigh.

[Anonymous]

Apparently my DD's JV coach constantly brags about how good he is as a coach. My DD tells me that everyone rolls their eyes behind his back. They lost all the games so far, so they are still waiting to see what the bragging is all about. And before someone says something, I do understand that the coach cannot win games, the team needs to come together. I wish someone would suggest that he is more supportive toward the players rather than constantly ranting about his greatness. He probably doesn't even know how obnoxious he is. I don't think he will ever hear it from the players because there would likely be consequences for whoever says anything.