Whats your freshman DD doing this weekend?

[Anonymous]

I am curious what most freshman girls are doing this weekend? Mine has been home all weekend in her room. But I keep seeing pics of similarly aged girls getting together for sleepovers, pool hangouts, beach trips, mall outings. Is that just social media??

[Anonymous]

Where are you seeing this? Is your kid unhappy?

[Anonymous]

Mine is home with a cold and hanging out on the couch with her sister. I have no idea what any of the other freshman girls are doing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Where are you seeing this? Is your kid unhappy?

Seeing this through kids social media. My DD hasn't said much and seems content in her room. Simply trying to gage what the middle ground is for teen girls who have just started HS.

[Anonymous]

Has the football season started? If so, does she have any interest in attending games?

[Anonymous]

You didn't ask for boys, but mine is an introverted homebody and mostly stays in his dorm or returns home, since his college is local.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You didn't ask for boys, but mine is an introverted homebody and mostly stays in his dorm or returns home, since his college is local.

Freshman in HS. Not freshman in college.

[Anonymous]

Going to a BBQ. Going to the pool.

as an aside, I can't even fathom knowing what other Freshmen are doing. Aren't their accounts private? How does an adult even view this or want to?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Going to a BBQ. Going to the pool.

as an aside, I can't even fathom knowing what other Freshmen are doing. Aren't their accounts private? How does an adult even view this or want to?

DD shows me. That's how.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Going to a BBQ. Going to the pool.

as an aside, I can't even fathom knowing what other Freshmen are doing. Aren't their accounts private? How does an adult even view this or want to?

DD shows me. That's how.

Well that's a cry for help. Either she needs to get off social media or she's showing you because she wants to be doing something too. Can she invite someone and do something together.

[Anonymous]

If she is showing you then maybe it is upsetting for her but I can tell you that I have a junior, a sophomore and a 7th grader and they have been in the house all weekend. I asked what their friends are up to and they responded that they did not care. I think it was an exhausting week with school and sports, the weather is not pool friendly and they need some time to just lay around.

[Anonymous]

Comparison is the thief of joy. My older 2 weren’t big on SM in HS and seemed oblivious to the kids with big weekend plans. They spent a lot of time at home but still seemed to have friends. They just had friends who were similarly laid back. If your daughter is otherwise happy, I wouldn’t worry. If she is feeling badly because she sees SM posts, encourage her to spend less time on SM and also to extend her own invitations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Comparison is the thief of joy. My older 2 weren’t big on SM in HS and seemed oblivious to the kids with big weekend plans. They spent a lot of time at home but still seemed to have friends. They just had friends who were similarly laid back. If your daughter is otherwise happy, I wouldn’t worry. If she is feeling badly because she sees SM posts, encourage her to spend less time on SM and also to extend her own invitations.

I don't think she feels badly when she shows me. It's just her way to chat about her world. I am more curious what the norm is.

[Anonymous]

My DD didn’t get a ton of invites her freshman year. She is now a sophomore and things have definitely changed for the better. Last week she went ice skating with friends, the week before she went to the mall, she wants to invite a friend to our house tomorrow and has plans to go to a volleyball game on Friday.

[Anonymous]

My friend’s daughter is very active on social media. She and her friends document and post everything. Her SM looks like she is always having a blast with her lacrosse and tennis friends. They go to the pool, mall, shows, concerts, etc.

I remember there was a group of girls at my college whose sole purpose in life was to look pretty and post pictures of themselves online. It really isn’t all that.