New kid at center school - looked down on?

[Anonymous]

My DD is heading to a center school tomorrow. Our base school has level four, but we wanted her to have the extra push we heard this center school provides.

At open house last week, the teacher introduced my daughter to another girl and mentioned that my DD was coming from the other school. The teacher was great and said it enthusiastically, but the other girl’s mom replied, “Oh,” stepped between the two girls, and turned her back to us.

Is this what it’s like going to a center school? Are the new kids looked down on?

[Anonymous]

Don't know what was up with that parent. No, of course new students are not looked down upon. Kids move or transfer. It's fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DD is heading to a center school tomorrow. Our base school has level four, but we wanted her to have the extra push we heard this center school provides.

At open house last week, the teacher introduced my daughter to another girl and mentioned that my DD was coming from the other school. The teacher was great and said it enthusiastically, but the other girl’s mom replied, “Oh,” stepped between the two girls, and turned her back to us.

Is this what it’s like going to a center school? Are the new kids looked down on?

I think you’re reading too much into this, who knows what that mom had going on. Our center grows by an entire class of new students from 3rd to 4th and then another additional class by 5th and/or 6th. Plenty of new kids and no one is looked down on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DD is heading to a center school tomorrow. Our base school has level four, but we wanted her to have the extra push we heard this center school provides.

At open house last week, the teacher introduced my daughter to another girl and mentioned that my DD was coming from the other school. The teacher was great and said it enthusiastically, but the other girl’s mom replied, “Oh,” stepped between the two girls, and turned her back to us.

Is this what it’s like going to a center school? Are the new kids looked down on?

Depends on the center, and the parents. Some that I can think of have an elitist mentality, especially if the center is in a higher SES than the feeder schools. This is NOT the norm though.

[Anonymous]

No, that doesn’t make sense. My kid is also new at center this year… as are well over half the kids in 3rd grade, I would assume.

Plus, keep in mind that even if a parent is rude, the kids probably won’t be.

[Anonymous]

That sounds odd and reflects something going on with the other parent.

My DD is starting new at a center for 4th grade and there are several other new kids including one at her table. I feel like everyone has been very welcoming so far.

[Anonymous]

You should not be judging body language based on one comment. The reason I say this is because I went for open house this past week and had a question for the teacher, she tersely answered, suddenly turned around as if trying to avoid me and talking to someone else. Not because she wanted to ignore but the classroom was a fish market at that peak time. Too many kids, too many parents. I don't think the teacher's body language was indicative of anything other than "too much going on around".

[Anonymous]

You are mentioning about moving to other school . My DD moved into the same school and Many of the moms attitude werent welcoming . Usually when I go to open houses we would exchange the numbers with each other and have happy conversations but this time it was such a worst experience. As others mentioned the kids were so much better than their parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are mentioning about moving to other school . My DD moved into the same school and Many of the moms attitude werent welcoming . Usually when I go to open houses we would exchange the numbers with each other and have happy conversations but this time it was such a worst experience. As others mentioned the kids were so much better than their parents.

I don't know that I've ever exchanged numbers with parents at open houses. Also, AAP is 3rd grade and on when kids start forming their own friendships before the parents become involved. Just a thought on why that might've happened.

[Anonymous]

Just please assume that mom had a lot going on and move on. Those open houses can be choas, especially if you've got multiple kids going different directions. We met a new AAP transfer kid at open house and I reminded my daughter more than once to be extra kind and make sure the new student had a friend today on the first day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD is heading to a center school tomorrow. Our base school has level four, but we wanted her to have the extra push we heard this center school provides.

At open house last week, the teacher introduced my daughter to another girl and mentioned that my DD was coming from the other school. The teacher was great and said it enthusiastically, but the other girl’s mom replied, “Oh,” stepped between the two girls, and turned her back to us.

Is this what it’s like going to a center school? Are the new kids looked down on?

Depends on the center, and the parents. Some that I can think of have an elitist mentality, especially if the center is in a higher SES than the feeder schools. This is NOT the norm though.

My son was at a predominantly Indian center and they acted this way. Wonder if it’s the same school?

[Anonymous]

So you inferred something from a stranger's body language and immediately came on here to ask is everyone is going to be mean to your kid at her new school? Unclench. Jesus.

[Anonymous]

It might not have anything to do with you specifically... As an example, my child is in 3rd at a center school typically with 2 AAP classes per grade. I expected to have a balanced mix of base kids and transfer kids in each class. But for some reason one class is entirely base kids and one class has ALL of the transfer kids (17) and only a handful of base kids (I suspect the transfer class is entirely level IV while the base class is level IV plus advanced math or level III kids added to fill out the class- unconfirmed but I can't think of any other reason they would assign the classes like that). My child is in the 100% base class with ALL of their friends and more from last year while just 1 child from last year's class was placed in the other room (along with a couple kids from the other classrooms last year). The mom was trying to still be positive about the situation, I could tell she was a bit irritated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It might not have anything to do with you specifically... As an example, my child is in 3rd at a center school typically with 2 AAP classes per grade. I expected to have a balanced mix of base kids and transfer kids in each class. But for some reason one class is entirely base kids and one class has ALL of the transfer kids (17) and only a handful of base kids (I suspect the transfer class is entirely level IV while the base class is level IV plus advanced math or level III kids added to fill out the class- unconfirmed but I can't think of any other reason they would assign the classes like that). My child is in the 100% base class with ALL of their friends and more from last year while just 1 child from last year's class was placed in the other room (along with a couple kids from the other classrooms last year). The mom was trying to still be positive about the situation, I could tell she was a bit irritated.

Unfortunately, there are a lot of politics in these AAP classrooms.

[Anonymous]

We're at a center school and transfered from a title I school. There are no politics, no bad vibes, no one looked down on my kid. Over half the kids are transferes. None of the other moms cared. I volunteer in the classroom. There is no drama. We decided to leave my home school because of drama.