Man who travels unnecessarily often - cheating?

[Anonymous]

I have a friend whose husband travels a lot. I don’t want to say his job but his main job does not require travel. My friend often complains he is not home or leaves abruptly for days. He does not help with the house or kids at all. We know plenty of people who travel for work or pleasure but this situation is the only time it feels like he is definitely having an affair or affairs and traveling unnecessarily. When he does travel, he tacks on days, goes earlier than planned. My friend says she isn’t sure where he is sometimes.

Does this sound like a big red flag?

[Anonymous]

What's with all the posts lately outlining a clearly ridiculous situation and asking if it's normal?

Was this posted by AI that was trained on r/AITA posts?

[Anonymous]

How do you know his job doesn't
require travel? Is he paying for these trips himself?
There are people at work that travel more than necessary and not all are having affairs. Some people just don’t want to be home and helping with the day to day.

[Anonymous]

I think the solution to this for you is Mind Your Own Business.

[Anonymous]

Not your marriage, not your business.

[Anonymous]

Yes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend whose husband travels a lot. I don’t want to say his job but his main job does not require travel. My friend often complains he is not home or leaves abruptly for days. He does not help with the house or kids at all. We know plenty of people who travel for work or pleasure but this situation is the only time it feels like he is definitely having an affair or affairs and traveling unnecessarily. When he does travel, he tacks on days, goes earlier than planned. My friend says she isn’t sure where he is sometimes.

Does this sound like a big red flag?

Honestly, who cares and it’s not your business.

[Anonymous]

Yes obviously this man is having an affair.

I think his wife must strongly suspect one as well.

She needs to put her foot down + demand he help out w/the house & kids.

But something tells me at this point it may already be too late. ⏰

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do you know his job doesn't
require travel? Is he paying for these trips himself?
There are people at work that travel more than necessary and not all are having affairs. Some people just don’t want to be home and helping with the day to day.

+1. This is my thought, just wants to get away from the family.

[Anonymous]

Ask her how is their marital sex life? If she says Great, then you will know he is NOT cheating (confidence=90%). If she says Not Great, then he IS cheating (confidence=100%).

[Anonymous]

I had a friend whose father was like this. He was an older dad. Turns out, he had a previous wife and family, and would go to see them. The current wife knew. They just didn't want their children to know.

[Anonymous]

I know someone who had a whole other family. It was like something out of a bad movie. If I were her I would hire a private investigator if she can pay them without him figuring out. Absent that I’d try to figure out what was going on so as to get a jump start on dealing with him sheltering money, etc.

[Anonymous]

Not your circus. Not your monkeys. It's an old Russian saying.

[Anonymous]

Second family.

[Anonymous]

Meddling DC Mommy Karens never disappoint.