Help - dd hates shopping but needs work clothes

[Anonymous]

Dd just graduated college and is starting a job with a business casual dress code. Pants are covered but she needs a fair amount of tops. I need to buy online as she is fed up after visiting a couple of stores.

I understand that she does not want tops that are cropped but she tried on some cute tops at Evereve but she thought they were too short in the front (narrator: they weren’t).

The pickings are slim right now at most places as summer fabrics are sold out.

Any ideas (links) for tops she could wear with black pants? She has a few light weight cardigans and a few Pranayama cardigans from Athleta (that I assume count as business casual). She needs tops to wear under those (preferably tunic length). Is Amazon the answer?

Thanks for any help!

[Anonymous]

How old is she?

[Anonymous]

My go to for this stuff used to be Talbots, Lands End and Ann Taylor loft. My office was always cold, so going without a jacket wasn’t an option, and between the three I usually found some plain washable sleeveless shells that looked good under a jacket.

[Anonymous]

Amazon is a real pain to sift through all the drop shipped stuff. What about BR or J Crew outlet?

[Anonymous]

I sympathize. Everything is way too cropped these days.

Uniqlo's AIRism Seamless V-Neck Long T-Shirts for women are really long and very light weight. Could be worth sending her a few in the mail.

[Anonymous]

Your college graduate daughter is “fed up” with shopping, so her mommy is now buying a wardrobe for her online and crowd-sourcing to find out what the college grad daughter might tolerate? Really?

Give her a budget and tell her to pick out her own clothes for her job. She’s a college grad. She had a job. Her mommy should not be fretting over this as if she were a middle schooler.

[Anonymous]

Ann Taylor Loft, Madewell, Banana Republic, White House Black Market

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your college graduate daughter is “fed up” with shopping, so her mommy is now buying a wardrobe for her online and crowd-sourcing to find out what the college grad daughter might tolerate? Really?

Give her a budget and tell her to pick out her own clothes for her job. She’s a college grad. She had a job. Her mommy should not be fretting over this as if she were a middle schooler.

Oh, come on. When I started my first job after college, it was so stressful to move to a new city, learn the ropes at my job, transition to being completely on my own away from my friends and family outside of the fun college cocoon. We should all be so lucky to have a mom who cares about us enough to send a few shirts to lighten just a little of that mental load.

[Anonymous]

If you don't have a tight budget, the easiest thing is to book a personal shopper appointment at Nordstrom. She can tell them what she needs, styles she likes, etc. and they'll pull stuff to try on.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, I would try a consignment store.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your college graduate daughter is “fed up” with shopping, so her mommy is now buying a wardrobe for her online and crowd-sourcing to find out what the college grad daughter might tolerate? Really?

Give her a budget and tell her to pick out her own clothes for her job. She’s a college grad. She had a job. Her mommy should not be fretting over this as if she were a middle schooler.

Reading between the lines, there may be some neurodivergence involved, PP. Be charitable and accept OP's premise. My college kid is on the spectrum and I will be buying his clothes for a few more years, while he integrates what's appropriate for what circumstance. And he's a man, which is easier to shop for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your college graduate daughter is “fed up” with shopping, so her mommy is now buying a wardrobe for her online and crowd-sourcing to find out what the college grad daughter might tolerate? Really?

Give her a budget and tell her to pick out her own clothes for her job. She’s a college grad. She had a job. Her mommy should not be fretting over this as if she were a middle schooler.

Reading between the lines, there may be some neurodivergence involved, PP. Be charitable and accept OP's premise. My college kid is on the spectrum and I will be buying his clothes for a few more years, while he integrates what's appropriate for what circumstance. And he's a man, which is easier to shop for.

Thank you to you and the other pp for understanding. I don’t think it is necessary to put all of the facts in a post about clothes but there will always be people who jump to conclusions. Change can be overwhelming for many people and if I can help my dd with this aspect of it while she navigates finding an apartment and other things that need to be done, I’m happy to do so.

Thank you to all of the others for your suggestions.

No comment to the pp who was nasty to both me and my dd.

[Anonymous]

Quince, Everlane, Universal Standard,

[Anonymous]

Mango, COS, French Connection, Theory, Quince

[Anonymous]

You’re buying your adult daughter’s clothes online for her because she can’t deal with shopping? Do you pack her lunch as well?