| Never bought on there. Enquired about furniture and seller said it's available. What is the next step? Do I ask about picking it up at their place, a meet up...It's large enough that it has to fit in a large car (will be fine for our car)? No idea how this works. |
| “I can come get it any time tomorrow, what works for you?” Or whatever your availability is. It’s just a person. |
Is it rude to not fully commit and say I want to look at the item? I'm probably going to get it but just wondering in case in person there is a major flaw. |
If you think there might be competition for it, I probably wouldn’t say that because they might go with someone else. But you can certainly look at it when you get there and check for any flaws, and you can always say “oh gosh I’m so sorry but I didn’t see this enormous scratch in the pictures, it’s not actually gonna work for me.” |
| It’s also totally OK to ask for more pictures, measurements, etc. |
It’s only rude if they bring it to your house. But that would be very rare. When I have bought and sold on marketplace (and elsewhere) the assumption is that the buyer goes to the seller’s house. There was only one time when a seller brought an item to me, because I said her location was too far and she would have lost the sale. I almost backed out because the device wasn’t charged so I couldn’t tell if it would work. She was adamant that it was barely used and should work after being charged, and I felt bad because she had driven to my house. Luckily it did work, but lesson learned: if you’re buying an electronic device, ask the seller to send a video proving it works and bring it fully charged so you can test it before buying. |
| One time I referred in passing to scheduling around my baby’s nap and the lady immediately offered to come to me instead, did, admitted the baby, then asked if I had read Weissbluth and gave me a big hug. But that’s unusual. |