Use of F* word

[Anonymous]

Question for those that know your kid has or does use f* word with friends, at what age did they start? Do they also use with you? I feel out of date or naive from being raised in a “no bad words” house. Is f* even considered “bad word” anymore? Do some parents still tell kids they “won’t tolerate that language in this house”?

[Anonymous]

My parents didn’t swear but we swore a lot outside the house. I still use the f word frequently and the two older ones use it. It’s a pretty common word in a lot of places. Just not to strangers or older relatives or young relatives.

[Anonymous]

It’s low class.

[Anonymous]

14 year old DD uses it with her friends, but not in the presence of adults. Swearing *at* people is not allowed. That's the rule.

[Anonymous]

Yes, it's still considered a bad word. I have told mine I don't want to hear it from them. If they use it with their friends, whatever.

I pointed out they should never drop an F-bomb in front of little kids or anyone a generation older (or beyond) than them or anyone in a position of authority.

[Anonymous]

Honestly at our house we don’t really care much about cursing as long as it isn’t cursing AT someone.

My teens know not to curse around other adults, younger kids etc. DS curses a fair amount but DD rarely does. Similar when talking to peers from what I can tell.

[Anonymous]

Yes, it’s a bad word. You will have to instruct them not to use it as they hear it at school and on YouTube. Etc.

[Anonymous]

It’s disrespectful.

[Anonymous]

I know people of all ages, including senior citizens, who use it and I also know people of all ages who never use it.

There are no rules although anyone with half a brain will not use it around young children. There is plenty of evidence though that many people do not have half a brain.

[Anonymous]

I mean, it’s a bad word still, of course. But the occasional use among close family, when your teen is older and closer to/legally is an adult.. isn’t a big deal IMO.

If it’s constant, like your kiddo can’t speak two sentences without including it? Yeah that’s pretty trashy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s low class.

Agree. I would definitely not tolerate to me, in public, or around adults.

If they are a younger teen or tween I’m not sure what I do. I would try to steer them away from whatever friends seem to be contributing to this. I would probably tell them they need to keep texts profanity free as well.

[Anonymous]

I’ve seen bad words via text on my kids phone.
I’ve never heard her say them although I’m
Sure she does.

[Anonymous]

I assume my kids use it with friends in person and in text, but since they don't use it with me, I have no idea when it started.

I will say that when I've heard it in a song they've (forgotten it's a lyric) played for me, I'll tell them it's a sign to others of low education and a poor vocabulary.

[Anonymous]

Both of mine do with friends, but never at home. Both started around age 12. Totally no big deal to me. It’s so ubiquitous in the movies and TV we watch.

I remember discovering the power of a good swear word around age 12 and my mom made a huge deal about it and it had absolutely zero effect on my long term usage.

[Anonymous]

My high schooler uses it sometimes. We use it at times. My elementary school kid does not, and we don't curse around her. We talk to our kids a lot about the words they choose to use and the implications of them. So the f work in general is not a big deal, but it could be depending on how it is used.