My ex wanting to reconcile was BS, right?

[Anonymous]

My ex and I didn’t end on the greatest of terms, so I was surprised when he contacted me a few days ago. We were together for years and wanted to get married but we both had some growing up to do. So my ex said he wanted to reconcile but could tell I was apprehensive. He asked me when I’d be back (I’m traveling right now), I told him when, and agreed to see each other and he’d buy tickets for a concert I’ve been wanting to go to.

Today, he posted himself on a boat taking a selfie video with a bunch of women in bikinis in the background. I know he’s single and can do what he wants. However, I would think someone who is serious about working on reconciling wouldn’t do that, right? I know this may come off as insecure and me looking too much into things but I can’t help think about the optics of it.

Am I overthinking this or is my gut right?

[Anonymous]

Well at least he didn't have his arm around one of them.

For a group of singles with access to a boat, it doesn't seem unexpected to see bikini wearers.

Maybe he's ready to settle down.

I would ask about girls in the social media feeds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well at least he didn't have his arm around one of them.

For a group of singles with access to a boat, it doesn't seem unexpected to see bikini wearers.

Maybe he's ready to settle down.

I would ask about girls in the social media feeds.

I think because he was smirking in the video and I could tell he was purposely trying to show them off.

[Anonymous]

Move on, OP. Listen to your gut.

[Anonymous]

Was he trying to make you jealous? He seems crass. I would pass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Was he trying to make you jealous? He seems crass. I would pass.

How is he crass? Isn’t he single?

[Anonymous]

I have no idea whether it’s BS or not, but your gut seems to be saying no. I’d go with your gut.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Was he trying to make you jealous? He seems crass. I would pass.

How is he crass? Isn’t he single?

It's crass to post pics of yourself looking all proud that you're next to women in bikinis. That's what a college kid does, or an immature tech bro, or an Epstein, or a Gaetz. Get my drift? Men with no respect for women.
It's doubly crass to try to get back together with an ex while having those pics up on social media.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Was he trying to make you jealous? He seems crass. I would pass.

How is he crass? Isn’t he single?

It's crass to post pics of yourself looking all proud that you're next to women in bikinis. That's what a college kid does, or an immature tech bro, or an Epstein, or a Gaetz. Get my drift? Men with no respect for women.
It's doubly crass to try to get back together with an ex while having those pics up on social media.

Thank you! I think that’s what turned me off and made me think he wasn’t serious. I wish I could show you all the video - it’s just odd IMO to post anything with women that could be misinterpreted when you’re trying to get back together with someone. Plus, who takes a selfie video of themselves on a boat on the Potomac? It’s not like he’s in Santorini with beautiful scenery.

[Anonymous]

People take selfie videos of themselves everywhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People take selfie videos of themselves everywhere.

So? Trying to purposely show off women when trying to get back together with someone is what we call, corny. This is peak loser behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Move on, OP. Listen to your gut.

This.

Concerts off the bat is really ignoring the elephant in the room (why you actually broke up).

He needs to address that head on, up front, right away. That’s how you reconcile. Jot be seeing concerts, movies, dinners, etc. and avoiding the issue(s).

And yes he deliberately posted himself with a bunch of bikini women. Yuck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People take selfie videos of themselves everywhere.

Actually no. Not everyone is going around taking selfies and posting them.
You do that to show off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Move on, OP. Listen to your gut.

This.

Concerts off the bat is really ignoring the elephant in the room (why you actually broke up).

He needs to address that head on, up front, right away. That’s how you reconcile. Jot be seeing concerts, movies, dinners, etc. and avoiding the issue(s).

And yes he deliberately posted himself with a bunch of bikini women. Yuck.

See now I’m starting to doubt myself, which I hate. They’re only 3 women, along with him and another guy on the boat. There’s 1 girl just a bikini and the other two are in shorts and a bikini top. He does a 360 camera shot and you can’t see the women’s faces because they’re looking out at the water. He’s smiling and at the end says, “what’s up *insert the city he’s in*. Maybe it’s not deliberate if only one woman was completely in a bikini?

[Anonymous]

Are you two in your late 20s?

This seems normal to me.

Boat owners/tanners/bikini wearers sort together.