3 year old still in diapers
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My daughter just turned three, and I'm waiting for her to be ready to start potty training. The doctor at her 3-year checkup said it's totally fine to wait, but daycare isn't pushing the issue yet.
I'm curious if anyone else has waited until their child was a bit older to start potty training? When did you start potty training your little one? I'm asking because my in-laws are always talking about it and making us feel like we're holding our daughter back. I'd love to hear some advice or reassurance that we're doing what's best for our child |
Anonymous
| Now is good time to start. Just take the diapers away completely and start potty training. I always waited until their 3rd birthday, and they were full potty trained within a week with little to no accidents. |
Anonymous
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The signs of readiness are:
- Being able to push down pants and underwear - Being verbal enough to say they need to go potty Most kids don't potty train themselves so you should take the initiative. We did the no pants or underwear thing a little before age 2.5 which was rough, but effective. It helped DD figure out what happens if she doesn't go to the potty. Other people keep pullups on but take their kid to the potty regularly. |
Anonymous
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How did you know to start. Daughter only really showing sign 6 here, so that's why we're leaving for now
https://www.kandookids.com/blog/when-to-start-potty-training/ |
Anonymous
| I start with zero expectations and train while still in diapers. Create interest. Start by having them sit on the potty and talking about what the potty is for. If still napping, directly after nap if she is dry is often a great place to start. Work up to a routine of first thing in the morning, about two hours later, before and after nap, and around 2 hour intervals until before bed. You can just unfasten one tab of the diaper and have it drop down to sit on the potty. Then pop up and refasten afterwards. |
Anonymous
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Hi op, lots of different opinions on this. That is a random potty training product website, not really a reliable source and what they are saying doesn't align with what I've read. But, there isn't great research on potty training (who wants to focus on that) so it isn't like there is some ultimate source. But I definitely wouldn't base your full decision on a list like that.
Like another poster said, if your child is able to express their needs to you verbally, can pull up and down their pants (we actually potty trained before my younger could fully do this so it isn't a requirement), they are probably ready. Some kids will just do it on their own but MOST need you to initiate, get them excited and remove the diapers. I would recommend getting the big little feelings course and making a plan to address it: https://biglittlefeelings.com/courses/potty-training-made-simple/?gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjwnei0BhB-EiwAA2xuBte7FMJN5LWNEwR8-P0LlD4Dab505YDvv-A_zA38kLc7Tg7GgVvZERoCkwMQAvD_BwE Maybe she'll show more signs of interest, but after 3 they get used to it and she'll probably just continue on - it is all she knows. If her personality is one to just keep on keeping on, she will. Doesn't mean she can't or shouldn't be potty trained. There isn't a perfect right answer, some parents wait and it is fine. Some wait and it is really hard. We did it early and don't regret it at all. At 3 I would start addressing it, personally. |
Anonymous
| And if you don't want to do it the naked for a few days way that many people use now, you'd prefer a slower approach that's fine too. I've come to think that anything that says there is only one way to do things is almost always wrong - so you don't have to take the naked approach (though it worked for us). But you might want to start having a little potty out, trying to pee on it in the morning, things like that. Starting the process if you plan to go about it more incrementally rather than remove diapers and go for it. That approach works pretty well and fairly quickly in my experience but it just doesn't work for everyone's temperaments. My friends couldn't stand to be home for a few days so they did it over time and it was fine - their kid potty trained a little after 3 (they started practicing much earlier though) |
Anonymous
Op here thanks we'll look into it, starting to think our 3 year check up advice wasn't the best. I've been reading things based on the doctors advice that recommended leaving it so have probably been biased by that |
Anonymous
There are definitely two schools of thought on this and I can't say which one is best. Probably neither - it is probably fine to leave it for a little! But just know, that she CAN definitely do it - 100%. I wouldn't not do it because you think she's "not ready." 3 year olds unless there are some developmental concerns are ready. It is more what works for your family and those sorts of things. |
Anonymous
| Unless your DD has developmental delays or some other special need, 3 is not too young to potty train!!! You need to introduce the idea and teach her how to use the potty. |
Anonymous
| I waited until after 3 with my youngest. We tried about 3 months before he turned 3, and he strongly resisted sitting on any toilet/potty seat/training potty. I left the door open to him initiating, and occasionally after that he would use the toilet on his own. Around 3 months after he turned 3, I switched him to underwear and he was totally ready. He probably would have been ready a bit sooner, but he’s my most stubborn kid, and I didn’t feel like pulling teeth on that particular issue. |
Anonymous
Thanks I'm sure she's physically ready, but she isn't emotionally ready, hence why we've been waiting a little longer. We will start introducing, but her lack of interest is what is putting us off. |
Anonymous
| Do you have a potty already? We trained our daughter shortly after she turned 2 but started by having a potty in the bathroom months before and casually offering it to her, especially for BMs where she gave clear signs it was about to happen. She wasn't interested, but we still offered. Then we introduced some potty books to introduce her to the idea of "potty training" and being a big girl. After that, one random day she said "yes" to using the potty and we had underwear in her favorite character print ready. Took about a week and pretty painless. |
Anonymous
We have one in the bathroom, we've not been consistent but had her sit on it for 15 minutes every other day just to try and get used to it, she's not used it yet though |
Anonymous
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"To be ready"?
No. You are the parent and its time to step up. |