Any one with SN child TTC?

[Anonymous]

I am just wondering if there is anyone else out there TTC who already has a child with SN. What if I have another awful pregnancy and end up on bedrest? How could we get DC to appointments and school, etc. What if we have another child with SN? How could we possibly give both of them everything they need to thrive? How could we physically and FINANCIALLY do it? How would I handle it emotionally? Would I go into a depression? At the same time we waited a while to TTC again to get our child with SN to a "good place" whatever that means. Now I'm in my late 30s..time is running out and my feelings are all over the place about this. Just wondering if there is anyone else in the same boat?

[Anonymous]

Same boat. Same sucky miserable boat.

Wish I had some advice, but I feel exactly the same way you do. Glad to hear I'm not alone. I'm 39 and really need to make a decision.

[Anonymous]

21:14 it's me...OP...Thank you for posting! Yeah it took me quite a while to be ready to just take the plunge and now we have and I am anxious..I want to get pregnant, yet I'm so afraid of being overcome with anxiety when/if it happens. Oh well sad, but nice to hear I'm not alone.

Hope you don't mind if every now and then I do a shout out to 21:14 to see how you're doing or maybe every now and then i will just post as a mom of SN child and if you want to join the thread you can.If you do decide to take the plunge I am sending babydust and good luck your way. We will get through this!

[Anonymous]

NP here. Also in a similar situation. Agonized over whether we should try for another child because DC#2 was born with multiple severe disabilities. The more I thought about it, the more I knew I wanted to have another baby. Any doubt about this was put aside when we got pregnant and miscarried (actually, twice) and I still felt the need to try again. We are actually pregnant again, but literally living every day under a cloud of concern and worry. I won't lie to you that this pregnancy is truly terrifying, but I just have to cling to the small hope that there is a healthy child somewhere down the line. We are in a position where pre-natal genetic testing will offer us some assurances (but not all, of course). I keep telling myself that this is a leap of faith, like any and all pregnancies.

Good Luck and a big hug to you.

[Anonymous]

To 20:47 many (((HUGS)))) Sending you good luck too!! Congrats on your pregnancy!