Character growth

[Anonymous]

Would you say as adults your children have grown in character or are they the same as they were as teen. My teen ds is so fickle: he seems to change opinions, hobbies, mindsets even so frequently. He's stuck to a couple activities and is good at them but gives them maybe 80%. He said in June eating out all the time was bad for you and a waste of money and he is doing it all the time this summer, he'll ask for a nice gift to use and then won't use it much at all. Will he always be lack this?

[Anonymous]

How old is he? This makes a difference. But it's sort of known that teens try on different hats, it's part of their development

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How old is he? This makes a difference. But it's sort of known that teens try on different hats, it's part of their development

He just turned 17. He basically hates effort and wants a quick reward, will try a new activity, spend his money on stuff for it (nice boxing jump rope, pickle ball stuff for instance) be super into it for a month and give up. He got a job and was all in, lots of shifts then quit after three months, then repeat with another job. He mostly does not stay consistent at all other than school as he has good grades, and one sport. I get that this might be normal but I hope he outgrows it.

[Anonymous]

That sounds pretty normal. Also new friend groups influence. By 18 my DD had tried a lot of things and went all-in with exuberance: yoga/exercise bought some equipment; a full emo look; built an online resell shop; tried out social influencing and had built insta following of several thousand. None lasted. She's 22 now and has given up on all of these. Except the gym, she likes going to the gym after her internship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would you say as adults your children have grown in character or are they the same as they were as teen. My teen ds is so fickle: he seems to change opinions, hobbies, mindsets even so frequently. He's stuck to a couple activities and is good at them but gives them maybe 80%. He said in June eating out all the time was bad for you and a waste of money and he is doing it all the time this summer, he'll ask for a nice gift to use and then won't use it much at all. Will he always be lack this?

They are figuring out who they are.

Their identity and confidence will gel over time.

[Anonymous]

They have definitely grown, especially my youngest who was a PITA as a teenager. Now she is a wonderful wife, mother and very successful in her career. And, we are great friends. My husband really took her under his wing and it really helped even if early on he put the fear of God in her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old is he? This makes a difference. But it's sort of known that teens try on different hats, it's part of their development

He just turned 17. He basically hates effort and wants a quick reward, will try a new activity, spend his money on stuff for it (nice boxing jump rope, pickle ball stuff for instance) be super into it for a month and give up. He got a job and was all in, lots of shifts then quit after three months, then repeat with another job. He mostly does not stay consistent at all other than school as he has good grades, and one sport. I get that this might be normal but I hope he outgrows it.

Years of electronics usage has screwed up his body’s relationship with dopamine.