Do you give gifts to in-home caregivers?

[Anonymous]

My father died. He had a few caregivers in rotation who helped him in his home. They were associated with a small practice.

In this situation, did you give any, or all, of the caregivers a cash gift? If so, how much? He saw some more than others.

[Anonymous]

For my in laws who had in home caregivers for 2 plus years, my SIL gave them each $500 (4 of them). They were lovely people and my in laws left an estate of about 2.5 million, so it was really a token but a nice gesture.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I think $10k each in the early 2000’s.

[Anonymous]

Yes, money. They are underpaid and seem to appreciate it.

[Anonymous]

I would give them a cash gift. It’s difficult work and low pay. I’m sure they will appreciate it.

[Anonymous]

Cash.

Mom just died. We gave each $4k but most were with us over 10 years.

[Anonymous]

We had a saint who lived and cared for my parents for at least seven years. After my father died my five siblings and I each gave her $15,000 which was the gift limit at the time. It was a lot but she deserved it. One of my brothers proposed it in a text and positive responses came back in minutes.

[Anonymous]

My Dad had two care givers 24/7 so there was a list of about 15 - plus the care manager. After we died we gave each caregiver their usual one week's pay.

[Anonymous]

At Christmas time we gave holiday bonuses to each of the caregivers. This was through an agency, Home Instead. I gave enough to cover the taxes so each could have $150. There were about 7 rotating caregivers. They were so grateful because mostly nobody gave them anything and this was just some extra money at the holidays.

[Anonymous]

Yes. What I gave varied a bit based on how much time they had spent, how long they were with us.

In our case they weren't relationships of years, just weeks. So one got a few hundred and the other got closer to $1,000.

It was a lot given the short duration but they were lifesavers to me at the time and I was so very appreciative. And one of them was with my mother when she died (when none of us were). It meant a lot to them and I was glad I was generous. They were angels for my family.

I'm sorry for your loss OP.

[Anonymous]

At least $1000 each if you can afford it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At least $1000 each if you can afford it.

I can’t afford it. So I guess that will be my parameter- I’ll give what I can afford.