Ex Moved to Neighborhood

[Anonymous]

Am I crazy or is this just against the rules of a breakup? Six months post breakup you don't move TO that person's neighborhood which increases your chances of running into them.

[Anonymous]

Did you break up with him or did he break up with you? If he broke up with you and then moved to your neighborhood, he's clueless and kind of an ass hole who doesn't care about your feelings.

If you broke up with him I'd start carrying pepper spray. Stalker move.

[Anonymous]

I tried to get my ex to agree to a 4 mile distance in our divorce agreement as he’d been abusive. I told him I’d move if he moved to my immediate area. He did, I moved he can’t afford to follow.

[Anonymous]

Oh this happened to me, but more time has passed. However we had a very bad breakup (he cheated and then lied about it and then made up and then he cheated and then I found out about both incidence if cheating and the lie-- it was not good). So I was still very annoyed.

And then months went by and I never saw him and I realized it didn't matter. Still annoying but it turns out you don't see most if your new habits almost at all.

[Anonymous]

Assuming he's not a stalking concern.

Suck it up and get over it. You don't own a neighborhood.

[Anonymous]

An ex has kids in my kid’s elementary school and a different ex’s brother’s kid is in my kid’s class. I don’t like it at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Assuming he's not a stalking concern.

Suck it up and get over it. You don't own a neighborhood.

Sure, but it's insane to move to his ex-gf's neighborhood six months after a breakup.

[Anonymous]

Who cares. You never run into people unless this is a small podunk town.

[Anonymous]

I’d be horrified. It’s weird, they clearly don’t respect boundaries. I’d find walking/driving routes to completely avoid ex’s part of neighborhood to minimize risk of contact.

[Anonymous]

It depends on the context of the breakup. It sounds like you were the aggrieved party?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d be horrified. It’s weird, they clearly don’t respect boundaries. I’d find walking/driving routes to completely avoid ex’s part of neighborhood to minimize risk of contact.

They like the neighborhood. It’s not always about you.

[Anonymous]

I'm assuming there aren't children involved, since if there were: it's actually good if you live in the same neighborhood.

I'm also assuming there wasn't a marriage.

Finally: If you live in a city, a 'neighborhood' is an area still with thousands of people and your odds of running into someone are low.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Assuming he's not a stalking concern.
Suck it up and get over it. You don't own a neighborhood.

This. If you don't like it, move.

[Anonymous]

Do you have kids? Or is this just a pre-marriage ex?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Am I crazy or is this just against the rules of a breakup? Six months post breakup you don't move TO that person's neighborhood which increases your chances of running into them.

Amicable breakup/mutual split? Fine. Acrimonious, he dumped you? Dick move, but whatever. Acrimonious/abusive, you dumped him? Offputting af.

Abusive to the point one party scorched the Earth or had to get authorities involved to extricate themselves? Stalker move. Creepy.

You'll have to be more forthcoming with the breakup details to get a better answer, OP.