Celebrating pride for our daughter?

[Anonymous]

We accidentally outed our daughter at 13, so she didn’t really have a coming out. She had a girlfriend last year and introduced her to me, but otherwise never speaks of identifying as a lesbian or discussed anything about the culture.

She is now headed to college and DH asked me if we should do something to celebrate pride with her, or for her? I am utterly clueless about this. Is there something we should do? We are totally supportive, and frankly, I don’t think much about it.

I guess we could ask her but she never seems to want to discuss the topic, so we don’t.

[Anonymous]

There are a few smaller Pride events you could take her to. You can also buy her something cute like a bracelet or jewelry that’s rainbow or lesbian flag colored.

[Anonymous]

My trans kid (also heading to college) is completely uninterested in pride. I was all set to her to take her to parades, etc... after she came out, and she wanted nothing to do with it. She also has basically no interest in meeting other trans people or being a part of any kind of community related to being trans. She does have queer friends, but that is not why she's friends with them. So, every person is different. I don't think I even mentioned it to her this year. It's not like she doesn't know it exists!

[Anonymous]

Is this a troll post?

No, you don't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My trans kid (also heading to college) is completely uninterested in pride. I was all set to her to take her to parades, etc... after she came out, and she wanted nothing to do with it. She also has basically no interest in meeting other trans people or being a part of any kind of community related to being trans. She does have queer friends, but that is not why she's friends with them. So, every person is different. I don't think I even mentioned it to her this year. It's not like she doesn't know it exists!

Yup, let them lead the way. If they know you're supportive, they'll let you know if they want to do something with you for Pride.

I have not once ever wanted to celebrate pride with my parents, but maybe some people do.

[Anonymous]

Would you consider flying a Pride flag? If so, you could ask if she'd like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would you consider flying a Pride flag? If so, you could ask if she'd like that.

Thanks. A friend suggested that.

[Anonymous]

Would you celebrate her liking d1cc?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would you celebrate her liking d1cc?

Nope. But I don’t think it is the same thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Would you celebrate her liking d1cc?

Nope. But I don’t think it is the same thing.

Actually it is. You don’t need to celebrate your daughter’s sex life. It’s weird.

[Anonymous]

If she never speaks about it with you it's pretty clear this isn't something she wants to do with you and sounds super cringe.

[Anonymous]

I think it would be better to celebrate your daughter getting her first bra instead.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Would you celebrate her liking d1cc?

Nope. But I don’t think it is the same thing.

It is.

[Anonymous]

This sounds like such a troll attempt.

Teens take on all sorts of identities for fun and experimentation, and very often this does not mean they will definitely be that identity all their lives. So there was no need to "out" or announce anything when she was 13 - that's really, really stupid on your part, and the main reason I think you're fake.

Just parent your child and stop digging into whatever sexual identity she decides to have. It's creepy to be that obsessed.

[Anonymous]

Her coming out was introducing her girlfriend. No parade needed.