How to get someone over 95 to stop driving?

[Anonymous]

When did your elderly stop driving? I can’t accept that my friend’s mom is still driving and she is over 95.

[Anonymous]

Is she a safe driver? Not everyone ages the same. Look at Biden.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is she a safe driver? Not everyone ages the same. Look at Biden.

I am not sure. I think she should not be going to highways at least. Changing lanes on regular roads is a problem too as she cannot turn properly on the left side to check for cars.

She cannot be stopped. I mean, she wont stop on her own. But we are not sure what to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When did your elderly stop driving? I can’t accept that my friend’s mom is still driving and she is over 95.

If it’s your friends Mom, you surely need to figure out how to accept it as it’s none of your business.

MYOB. Jesus.

[Anonymous]

What does your friend say? How often does she drive? If not often, then surely catching an uber is a better deal if you do the math. If daily, she must be a good driver.

[Anonymous]

We physically took our parents' keys. Not easy, but necessary.

[Anonymous]

There is a report you can fill out with the police.

They will give them an order to take a driving test.

If they pass there is nothing you can do.

I was at the MVA when a 90 yo woman passed and she cried she was so thankful.

Idk. I say teach them to use Uber. Or use gogograndparents.

[Anonymous]

We took my Dad's key when he was no longer a safe driver. Then he spent all day looking for his keys to his car in the garage. Haha.

So then we had to sell his car. We made sure he had rides to where ever he wanted to go.

[Anonymous]

I don’t understand old people who won’t give up their keys. With rideshare apps it’s not like they are losing their independence.

I am a passenger princess who hates driving (my DH drives whenever we’re both in the car). Once no longer have the regular demands of driving kids around in a minivan, I would gladly stop paying for a car, gas, insurance, taxes, maintenance, etc. and just hire someone to drive me around to the store or wherever I need to go.

And I know SO many older people who keep driving despite things like chronic back pain causing leg weakness, Parkinson’s, cognitive issues, etc. but it’s a nightmare to take their keys away. We need to do a better job of treating driving like a privilege and start doing more frequent testing once someone hits age 65 (it seems like late 60s to early 70s is where a lot of older people go from still being young-ish to old).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When did your elderly stop driving? I can’t accept that my friend’s mom is still driving and she is over 95.

WTF!! This is so not your problem. Did your friend ask you for help? Do you even know if the person is a safe driver?

If your friend asked you for help that's an entirely different scenario but the world DGAF what you can accept.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When did your elderly stop driving? I can’t accept that my friend’s mom is still driving and she is over 95.

No one asked you Karen.

[Anonymous]

When it's your own parent, you disable their car battery. All of us siblings agreed on that one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When it's your own parent, you disable their car battery. All of us siblings agreed on that one.

This. It's what we did for my grandmother.

[Anonymous]

take out the battery

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand old people who won’t give up their keys. With rideshare apps it’s not like they are losing their independence.

I am a passenger princess who hates driving (my DH drives whenever we’re both in the car). Once no longer have the regular demands of driving kids around in a minivan, I would gladly stop paying for a car, gas, insurance, taxes, maintenance, etc. and just hire someone to drive me around to the store or wherever I need to go.

And I know SO many older people who keep driving despite things like chronic back pain causing leg weakness, Parkinson’s, cognitive issues, etc. but it’s a nightmare to take their keys away. We need to do a better job of treating driving like a privilege and start doing more frequent testing once someone hits age 65 (it seems like late 60s to early 70s is where a lot of older people go from still being young-ish to old).

My mother has an iphone and is facile on the computer but has trouble with apps. She is constantly stumped by the uber app. It's easy for us but not for people in their 90's.