Teen stages of dating - anybody know what they are?
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Anonymous
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DS told me there is a "talking" stage in dating now. And then after that I think there's a "pinned" stage. This has something to do with social media - getting pinned on IG or snap chat i think?
Curious - Does anyone know how this works? If they are talking, does that mean in person or on the phone or texting? Also, what comes before talking and after pinned? |
Anonymous
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I don’t know the answer to this. My DD who is 16, spent the entire school year hanging out with a boy. They have matching necklaces that they wear. They snap each other every day. DD insists they are not dating.
This is confusing to me as a mom. |
Anonymous
| First base, second base, third base and home run |
Anonymous
| OMG (I'm kind of embarrassed to say) I know this one. Per my 18yo daughter it's talking, then seeing, then dating, then boyfriend/girlfriend; this last phase is an explicit discussion and in her/her friends' experience the guy usually asks the girl to be his girlfriend. Please know that I'm blushing and cringeing just writing this. |
Anonymous
How old are you?? Why would you be blushing and cringing over this info? I don’t get it. |
Anonymous
| PP Too old to know this in such detail |
Anonymous
| There has been a "talking" phase since at least the 90s... |
Anonymous
These are the stages my 15-yo DD has told me. The “talking stage” can last a long time and it can be months before a couple is “official”. I once made the mistake of using “talking” and “dating” interchangeably and my DD was absolutely horrified, haha. |
Anonymous
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I was dating in the 90s. Sure, we met someone we were attracted to, maybe exchanged numbers, went out on a date and then things progressed from there or not.
In talking with my DS it sounds as though teens today have these rigid, defined stages from pre-dating to dating to (potential) breakup. Everyone knows how they work, what they're called, use the nomenclature, and know what the rules are. Apparently you can jump back and forth between stages as well. I was just curious about this from a sociological perspective. |
Anonymous
Yes, talking and dating are not the same. |
Anonymous
| My 15DD also says that there are “situationships”, not “relationships”. ??? |
Anonymous
Also this. I think snapping is a big piece of this, especially at first. Something like, you start chatting on snapchat. Low key. Then you become interested in each other and snap more often? And I think that may be the talking stage. I guess no talking on the phone yet? And then after that you somehow move to being pinned on snapchat which may mean getting more serious. And maybe this is when you start meeting in person, what old people would call a date. My kid is away this weekend, so I'll ask him when he gets back home! |
Anonymous
| what is "talking"? Is it literally just talking or is it casual dating and hooking up? |
Anonymous
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Situationships are casual sex
Pinning is on Snap. You can only pin 3 people so it’s like having them on your speed dial for us 80/90’s kids. It’s a big deal All of these stages don’t equal how advanced sexually they go. People do a lot just in talking phases as it can go on for awhile. Girls would be wise to make the boys commit. But yuck some girls want the boys to post them on social media. Soft launch is posting a pic with them in a group setting or just casual post. Hard launch is a pic or video basically say we are a couple. Like it’s very obvious. Smart couples keep it off social media, but sometimes players prefer that to keep snapping other girls. |
Anonymous
This is how I understand it too. Good analogy of pinning/speed dial. Totally agree that the more mature couples post very little on social media and if they do, it’s in a casual way. |