Relitigating a signed custody agreement

[Anonymous]

Anybody have experience with an ex challenging a custody agreement that was filed more than four years prior?

[Anonymous]

Seems likely in 4 years there was a material change in circumstances that would permit them to do so. The passage of time actually works against you here as it is more likely things are different now than back then.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I have. What information are you looking for?

[Anonymous]

I'm a legal secretary for a matrimonial lawyer and it happens. Circumstances change.

[Anonymous]

Are you not following the agreement?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you not following the agreement?

We are. Ex who lives far away (and did when the agreement was signed) no longer wants to pay for private school unless DC is living with him in his city.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you not following the agreement?

We are. Ex who lives far away (and did when the agreement was signed) no longer wants to pay for private school unless DC is living with him in his city.

Ok, so you pay or the kid goes to public. Maybe he cannot afford it along with child support. What is the actual story here? Why can't child visit more as a compromise?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you not following the agreement?

We are. Ex who lives far away (and did when the agreement was signed) no longer wants to pay for private school unless DC is living with him in his city.

Ok, so you pay or the kid goes to public. Maybe he cannot afford it along with child support. What is the actual story here? Why can't child visit more as a compromise?

What the hell! Are you a deadbeat dad or a deadbeat dad sympathizer?

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry, OP. That is an awful way to try to manipulate a child unless he has had some sort of genuine economic change.

[Anonymous]

With your update it sounds more like he is trying to modify the CS agreement rather than the custody agreement. It is highly likely that after 4+ years there will have been some form of a material economic change that will allow him to get a modification.

You need to talk to a lawyer. In most states paying for private school is a deviation from the guidelines, you need to see how likely a judge will be to force him to pay for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you not following the agreement?

We are. Ex who lives far away (and did when the agreement was signed) no longer wants to pay for private school unless DC is living with him in his city.

Ok, so you pay or the kid goes to public. Maybe he cannot afford it along with child support. What is the actual story here? Why can't child visit more as a compromise?

What the hell! Are you a deadbeat dad or a deadbeat dad sympathizer?

He's not a deadbeat. Maybe his financial situation has changed and he can no longer afford it. It happens. You are fortunate if its never happened to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:With your update it sounds more like he is trying to modify the CS agreement rather than the custody agreement. It is highly likely that after 4+ years there will have been some form of a material economic change that will allow him to get a modification.

You need to talk to a lawyer. In most states paying for private school is a deviation from the guidelines, you need to see how likely a judge will be to force him to pay for it.

This has nothing to do with custody. What does your child support order say? Was it ordered in the agreement? If it was he'll need to go to court to have it modified and if he had a change of income or something, he might win that one. If its not in the agreement, his portion would be covered under child support and you have the option to fully pay for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry, OP. That is an awful way to try to manipulate a child unless he has had some sort of genuine economic change.

The only change is that he now earns double what he did when child support was calculated (and still pays the old amount). He earns twice what I do and is in the top 1%.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry, OP. That is an awful way to try to manipulate a child unless he has had some sort of genuine economic change.

The only change is that he now earns double what he did when child support was calculated (and still pays the old amount). He earns twice what I do and is in the top 1%.

So if he's in the top 1% and makes 2x what you do. You're still doing pretty alright and can afford the tuition.

[Anonymous]

What state are you in? If his income has doubled the increase in the revised guidelines amount may cover a substantial portion of the private school cost anyways.

Either way if you apparently earn that much cough up some money for a lawyer and get actual legal advice tailored to your facts and circumstances.