Bar/Bat Mitzvah Sweatshirts

[Anonymous]

Help me settle a debate with my kid. Do 8th graders continue to wear sweatshirts they received from their classmates' 7th grade Bar/Bat Mitzvah celebrations?

[Anonymous]

no

[Anonymous]

Around the house, yes.

[Anonymous]

Around the house maybe but ours went right to the donation pile. Pj pants are a different story.

[Anonymous]

We went to one and yes the kids wear them... but it was a very popular upscale brand and the kids were able to add graphics of their choice at the event.

[Anonymous]

If it’s logoed with the event usually no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Around the house, yes.

+1. Or to throw on over a t-shirt before sports or to walk the dog.

[Anonymous]

I think they are mean when kids wear them to school the next day. "We are Hannah's Friends and you are not!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think they are mean when kids wear them to school the next day. "We are Hannah's Friends and you are not!"

This example is funny bc my daughter got a Bat Mitzvah sweatshirt from her friend Hannah's event a few weeks ago

[Anonymous]

Depends on the kid, and on the niceness of the sweatshirt! My kid is at a Jewish school so has been to around 40 already. Many kids wear the sweatshirts to school (everyone is invited to everyone’s so no meanness), people have their favorites, which don’t necessarily correlate with who their closest friends are. My own kid doesn’t wear them and doesn’t take them anymore.

[Anonymous]

I hate these both because they are exclusionary and also they have such a short shelf life and are essentially not do stable. The last thing some teen in a homeless shelter wants is a sweatshirt from some party they didn’t go to. It’s almost cruel to donate them.they are such landfill waste.

[Anonymous]

I suppose those kids who continue to enjoy lording the fact they got invited to a party over the kids who did not will also continue to wear them.

Would be nice if they outgrew such pettiness by 8 but oh well. Would be even nicer if kids who threw non-inclusive events didn't hand out swag as a constant reminder to the excluded, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I suppose those kids who continue to enjoy lording the fact they got invited to a party over the kids who did not will also continue to wear them.

Would be nice if they outgrew such pettiness by 8 but oh well. Would be even nicer if kids who threw non-inclusive events didn't hand out swag as a constant reminder to the excluded, too.

So no kid should hand out party favors for their birthday parties? Ridiculous. Should we also eliminate wedding favors too?

[Anonymous]

My kids are in college, and they still wear the Bar/Bat mitzvah hoodies (and they have a zillion hoodies - trying to get them to part with any is near impossible)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I suppose those kids who continue to enjoy lording the fact they got invited to a party over the kids who did not will also continue to wear them.

Would be nice if they outgrew such pettiness by 8 but oh well. Would be even nicer if kids who threw non-inclusive events didn't hand out swag as a constant reminder to the excluded, too.

So no kid should hand out party favors for their birthday parties? Ridiculous. Should we also eliminate wedding favors too?

We’re talking about personalized clothing.